2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
At the very beginning of the article, I will make a reservation that everything that I will talk about in this article below is purely my personal opinion. Accept it or not, agree or not - this is your decision and your right
Traditionally, pregnancy for a woman is happiness. When a child is expected, planned, long-awaited, he brings joy, pleasure. Mom's and Dad's little happiness.
Alas, this is not always the case …
Sometimes pregnancy occurs both unexpectedly and unwantedly. I will not analyze the reasons why it may be unwanted and unexpected, I only know that if a pregnancy has come, then this is always the desired outcome of BOTH partners. True, unconsciously. So, this is how their mutual unconscious chose, so decided. This is not connivance, not negligence, not recklessness, which is often referred to by others and the partners themselves. This is a mutual unconscious desire. The girl could want a baby to tie her partner to her, the partner wanted to settle down. These are examples, the options may be different. But on a conscious level, in the end, it turns out at the wrong time and out of place.
What happens most often in the soul of a woman who finds out about an unwanted pregnancy and plans to have an abortion? She is haunted by fears and a tremendous sense of guilt. The fear that she will no longer be able to have children, that this will have a harmful effect on her body, that other people will find out about this and will brand her as a whore and a child killer.
Regarding the fear of not getting pregnant in the future: a new pregnancy often does not occur due to a feeling of guilt for the previous one, terminated. Pregnancy, likewise, does not arise further if there are any fears regarding the birth of a child. Fears can be different: that I will not cope, as a mother, that with the birth of a child I will have to limit my freedom, distrust of my partner, etc.
When a woman talks about feelings of guilt, she appeals with the following arguments: "Some women cannot get pregnant for years, get treatment, go to IVF, but I … What a creature I am that I do not appreciate my pregnancy." Here, in part, self-accusation plays the role of an admission of guilt, and, as you know, the sword does not cut the guilty head.
Well, if now you feel guilty before all people who value something that we have in abundance, then it will be completely impossible to live like that! Children in Africa are hungry, but we throw food in the trash. They have no water, but we pour water in the tap just like that …
Abortion is, of course, harm to the body, it is a trauma for the female psyche. Now I'm not planning to blur my eyes and say "it's okay." But since this has happened and the decision has been made, then you need to foresee the consequences and prepare for them. There is no wrong decision. There are solutions and there are consequences.
If they decided to give birth, there would also be consequences that would have to be addressed with the birth of a child.
If we are going to embark on a philosophical jungle, then my opinion is this: pregnancy, if it happened, then it is so necessary for both the child and the mother. The termination of pregnancy will have consequences for the female body, for her family system and affect her future children and grandchildren in the form of an innate sense of guilt and fear for her life. But each person retains the sacred right to choose. There is no good or bad choice. Yes, I repeat, pregnancy is always the most optimal. But a woman can choose a different path.
The main thing is to realize, stop spreading rot, engage in self-flagellation and consider resolving the consequences of abortion. Get experience and take lessons.
A woman does not kill the soul of a child; the soul is immortal. She will either choose another body further, or will come to this woman later, when she is ready for this.
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