Safe Ways To Express Negative Emotions

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Some people, while agreeing that feelings are dangerous to keep inside, fall into a state of anxiety or even horror when it comes to expressing negative emotions (anger, for example).

One gets the impression that the obliging imagination, after these words, draws terrible pictures of an angry screaming man with bulging eyes and incredible power that can scatter everything around and cause irreparable harm to the environment.

But there are many ways to express negative feelings. About which many, unfortunately, do not know anything.

Emotions are usually expressed in a destructive way by people who accumulate them inside for a long time, until they start to “blow the roof off”. When attacks of aggression and anger can no longer be controlled so as not to destroy themselves, a person is forced to “let off steam” in the most unexpected way: insulting and humiliating others, “digging a hole” for offenders, slamming doors, breaking furniture, breaking mobile phones and computers, scratching faces, getting involved in fights, etc., feeling after that guilt for what he had done and destroying relations with others.

Therefore, in order to express negative feelings in a constructive way, you must, first of all, stop accumulating them and learn to notice their appearance. Indeed, sometimes, to experience a feeling, it is enough to see it, name it and accept it (for example, in a moment of anger, say to yourself: “Yes, I’m very angry now, and this is normal”). In order to learn this, you need to develop the habit of observing yourself. At critical moments, look in the mirror to understand what feeling is written on the face, observe the tension in the body. You can print pictures with images and names of emotions in order to ask yourself the question in critical situations: "What (am I) am I now?" etc.

The main thing to remember is that emotions live in the body (I wrote about this in more detail in this articleand they should also be expressed through the body. Safe ways for others can help with this:

- sports activities (running, gym, yoga, aerobics, boxing, football, dancing, etc.);

- physical labor (chopping wood, digging beds, scrubbing a bath, combing a cat, washing dishes, etc.);

- massage (with the study of blocks and clamps in the body);

- breathing exercises (pranayama, rebirthing, body flex, etc.);

- meditation, prayer;

- a walk on the street;

- creativity (felting, cutting with a jigsaw, drawing, modeling, mandalas, embroidery, etc.);

- inflating balloons;

- singing, crying, laughing;

- stamping feet;

- pillow battle (balloons, soft toys, etc.);

- screaming (into a pillow, into the water, in the forest);

- throwing away (destruction) of trash;

- beating eggs (in the field, in the forest);

- shooting (bottle, bow, shooting range);

- hitting a pillow (punching bag, large soft toy);

- keeping a diary;

- making and maintaining a fire (“burning” negative emotions);

- letters of grievance (which begin with the words "dear (person's name)", pass sequentially through anger, resentment, pain, fear, disappointment, regret, sadness, gratitude, forgiveness and end with the words "I love (let go) you");

- amusement park, water park slides (everything where you can screech, be afraid, strain and relax), etc.

Each person can have their own exclusive list of negative expressions that suits them and is safe for those around them. With the help of which a person takes care of himself.