Should Children Be Grateful To Their Parents?

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Should Children Be Grateful To Their Parents?
Should Children Be Grateful To Their Parents?
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Parents who believe that their children should be grateful to them for everything have never really loved their children, but have always been in a commercial relationship with them: I am you, you are me.

This attitude towards a child has nothing to do with selfless love. Such parents raised and released people burdened with a sense of guilt and duty, connected with their parents tightly by the umbilical cord of obligations.

In this case, the psychological separation of the child from the parent is extremely difficult. Not everyone is capable of breaking out of this psychological slavery, and some even consider parental slavery to be the norm and defend their own enslavement with foam at the mouth. It's like someone who was born in prison and raised there, believes that restriction in movement and a piece of sky overhead is the norm.

I have repeated many times and I will not get tired of repeating that children owe NOTHING to their parents, they must pass on all the good that they received from their parents further to their children, and those to the next generation. This is how the energy of the genus makes its own evolutionary path.

If parents demand to repay the debt from their children, then the genus gradually ceases to exist, it tends to extinction (infertility, miscarriages, early impotence, reduced sperm motility, stillborn children, etc.) since all the energy is wrapped up in the previous generation. This is one of the important reasons for procreation failures.

I am not saying here that you need to give up your parents and leave them in trouble. No. It's just that if the parents gave the child the disinterested energy of love, the child can share this energy with the parent when he grows up, completely voluntarily share it out of love for the parent, and not out of obligation, out of duty, not out of the fact that someone obliged him to be grateful. It seems to me that the demand to be grateful to someone, and even more so to your own child, is unnatural and cynical - this demand kills love and freedom, but gives rise to guilt and slavery. Any debts in love kill love, since love is a free, unhindered and innocent flow of the energy of goodness and compassion.

A parent who demands attention and gratitude from a child is actually still a child himself, who has not been fed up with love from his parents, who is hungry for love or who has given the previous generation out of debt more than he had for free giving. I do not expect anything from my adult son, but I am always happy to accept his sudden, free gifts and I am not offended that he does not give me something there, since He is my child, and not I am him.

Love your parents out of voluntary love, not out of duty and gratitude for having given birth and raised

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