A Person's Past Explains His Behavior

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

The reason for this complex nature is that there are two ways of having power over others. One is bullying or overpowering the other, otherwise he begins to feel like a victim. The second is influencing through a seductive approach that is highly effective against naive people who fall under psychopathic power.

Trauma of betrayal

There are many ways to betray and experience betrayal. According to the dictionaries, "betray" means "to stop being faithful to someone or something, to leave or surrender someone." The key term associated with betrayal and the opposite in meaning is loyalty. Being faithful means fulfilling your obligations, being loyal, not cheating. A faithful person can be trusted, you can rely on him. When loyalty is violated, it becomes the cause of suffering for the person who was betrayed.

Injury awakening: between two and four years of age, with a parent of the opposite sex. Collapse of trust or unfulfilled expectations in the love-sexual sphere. Manipulation.

When a child begins to experience betrayal, he creates a protective mask for himself - as in cases of other trauma. This is the mask of the CONTROLLER

Body: Radiates strength and power. The man's shoulders are wider than the hips. A woman's hips are wider and stronger than the shoulders. Wheeled chest. Belly too.

Eyes: The gaze is intent, seductive. Eyes that see everyone at a glance.

Vocabulary: "separate (Xia)", "do you understand?"

Personality: Considers himself very responsible and strong. Strives to be special and important. Doesn't keep its promises and commitments or makes efforts to keep them. Lies easily.

Manipulator. Seducer. Has a lot of expectations. The mood is uneven. I am convinced that I am right and strives to convince others. Impatient. Intolerant.

Understands and acts quickly. Good performer because he wants to be noted. Circus performer. It is difficult to trust. Doesn't show his vulnerability. Skeptic. Afraid to break or relinquish an obligation.

Most of all afraid: separation, divorce, renunciation.

Food: Good appetite. Eats fast. Adds salt and spices. He may not eat for a long time, while he is busy, but then he loses control of food.

Typical diseases: Diseases of control and loss of control, agoraphobia, spasmophilia, disorders of the digestive system, diseases ending in -it, oral herpes.

Diseases of betrayal:

Agoraphobia is due to his fusional subpersonality, as in the addict. On the other hand, agoraphobia experienced by the controller is marked predominantly by fear of insanity, while agoraphobia, motivated more by fear of death, is associated with the addict's mask. I want to emphasize here that doctors often confuse agoraphobia with spasmophilia.

The controller especially attracts to himself the diseases of control, management - all kinds of disruptions in the work of the joints throughout the body, and most often of the knee.

He is most prone to diseases with loss of control in some organs of the body - bleeding, impotence, diarrhea, etc.

When he feels completely helpless in a situation, he can be paralyzed.

He often has problems with the digestive system, especially with the liver and stomach.

He is also inclined to diseases, the name of which ends in -it. Here I refer you to my book “Your Body Says: Love Yourself!”, Where it is described in detail that these diseases are especially characteristic of people who, under the influence of their many expectations, are prone to impatience, anger and disappointment.

The controller often has oral herpes - it occurs when, consciously or unconsciously, the controller considers members of the opposite sex to be "nauseous types."It is also a good control to avoid kissing others.

Psychopathic structure

This character structure requires some foreword. This is the only type of character that has not been described or analyzed in my previous works. It can be a very complex structure, but for the sake of brevity and clarity, I will describe a simple form of this violation.

The essence of the psychopathic position is the denial of feelings. She differs from the schizoid, which is disconnected from the feelings. In the psychopathic personality, the ego, or mind, turns against the body and its feelings, especially sexual ones. This is why the term "psychopathy" came into being.

The normal function of the ego is to support the body's longing for pleasure, not to destroy it in favor of the ego's mental image. In all psychopathic characters, there is a large investment of energy in a person's mental image. Another aspect of this personality is the desire for power and the need to dominate and control.

The reason this type of character is difficult is that there are two ways to gain power over others. One is bullying or overpowering the other; in this case, if the person does not challenge the bully, then he begins to feel like a victim. The second way is to influence the person through a seductive approach, which is very effective against naive people falling under psychopathic power.

Bioenergy conditions

There are two body types that correspond to two psychopathic structures.

The suppressive type is more easily explained bioenergetically, and I use it for illustration. The acquisition of power over other people is achieved by raising above them.

In this model, a shift of energy towards the head end of the body is noticeable, with a concomitant decrease in charge in the lower body. The two halves of the body are markedly disproportionate, the upper part is significantly larger and more dominant in appearance.

The look is wary or incredulous. Such a person does not strive for rapprochement with others and does not understand them. This is a characteristic feature of the psychopathic personality. Most have a certain compression around the diaphragm and waist that blocks the flow of energy and feelings downward.

The head is energetically overloaded. This means that there is an overstimulation of the mental apparatus, leading to constant contemplation of how to gain control and mastery over the situation.

The need for control is also directed against oneself. The head is held very tightly (you should never lose your head), but it, in turn, holds the body tightly in its power.

physical characteristics

The suppressive body shows a disproportionate development in its upper part. This gives the impression of a bloated person and fits with his bloated ego image. It can be said that this structure outweighs the top.

She's also tough. The lower body can no longer display the weakness typical of an oral structure.

The body of the second type, which I called seductive or destructive, is more correct and does not have a puffy appearance. The back is usually too flexible.

In both cases, there is a disruption in the flow of energy between the two halves of the body:

in the first type, the pelvis is weakly charged and held rigidly;

in the second, it is too charged, but isolated. Both types have a pronounced contraction of the diaphragm.

There is also noticeable tension in the eye segment of the body, which includes the eyes and the occipital region.

Also, strong muscle tension can be felt in the cervical region along the base of the skull, in the so-called oral segment. This voltage is associated with the suppression of the beginning impulse.

Psychological relationships

The psychopathic personality needs someone to control, and although it may seem that she controls the person, she herself also depends on him. Thus, there is a degree of orality in all psychopathic personalities. They are described in the psychiatric literature as having oral fixation.

The need to be in control is closely related to the fear of being in control. To be in control is to be used. We will see that in the past, individuals with this character structure have had a struggle for dominance and control between parent and child.

The desire to be at the top, to achieve the goal is so strong that a person cannot admit or allow defeat. Defeat puts him in a victim position; ergo, he must be a winner in every situation.

Sexuality is also always used in this power play. He (man) is seductive in his apparent power or in a gentle secret temptation. Pleasure in sex is secondary to achievement or conquest.

Denial of feelings is usually denial of needs. The psychopathic maneuver of such a person is to make other people need him so that he does not have to express his needs. Thus, he is always at the center of the world.

Etiological and historical factors

Alexander Lowen & Liz Burbo: Character Typology - Psychopathic Type

In all character types, a person's past explains his behavior. I could make a general statement that no man can understand his behavior if he does not know his past.

Thus, one of the main tasks of any therapy is to explain the patient's life experience. In the case of this person, this is often quite difficult because the psychopathic tendency to deny feelings includes denial of experience. Despite this, much has been studied in bioenergy regarding the origin of this problem.

The most important factor in the etiology of this condition is the sexually seductive, misleading parent. The temptation is disguised and exists to satisfy the parent's narcissistic needs. It aims to tie the child to the parent.

The seductive parent is always the rejecting parent who rejects the child's needs for support and physical contact. The lack of necessary contact and support explains the oral element in this character structure.

A seductive relationship creates a triangle that places the child in a position to challenge a parent of the same sex. This creates a barrier to the necessary identification with the parent of the same sex and further identification with the seductive parent.

In this situation, any achievement of contact makes the child extremely vulnerable. The child will either rise above needs (upward shift), or will satisfy his needs by manipulating his parents (seductive type).

There is also a masochistic element in the psychopathic personality that arises from submission to a seductive parent. The child cannot rebel or leave this situation, he has only internal protection. Submission lies only on the surface; nevertheless, to the extent that the child obeys openly, he acquires some intimacy with the parent.

Masochistic elements are most powerful in the seductive or seductive variation of this character structure. The initial concession must shift into a masochistic subordinate role. Then, when the seduction has worked and the other person's attachment is strong, a sadistic quality arises.

By voice: The controller has a loud, rolling voice.

Dancing Style: The controller needs a lot of space. He loves to dance and uses it to seduce. But above all, for him, these are good opportunities to show himself. From him comes the call: "Look at me."

Choosing a car: The controller buys a powerful, visible car.

Seated Pose: The Controller sits with the whole body back and arms folded as he listens. Taking the floor, leans forward to look more convincing in the eyes of the interlocutor.

Fears: The controller is most afraid of separation and renunciation. He does not notice how intensely he himself creates problems and conflict situations, as a result of which he excludes further communication with individuals.

While creating, attracting to himself situations in which he renounces someone every time, he at the same time does not see that he is afraid of these situations. Rather, on the contrary, he assures himself that these breaks and denials are beneficial for him. He thinks that in this way he does not allow himself to be fooled or used.

His sociability and readiness for new acquaintances prevent him from realizing how many people he has deleted from his life. People around you see it much better.

And his eyes betray him too. When he gets angry, they become tough and even inspire fear, which can alienate many from him.

Injuries by gender:

The trauma of betrayal is experienced with a parent of the opposite sex. That is, the controller usually believes that he was betrayed by the opposite sex, and is inclined to blame them for his suffering or emotions. If he experiences the trauma of betrayal with a person of the same gender, then he blames himself mainly and is angry with himself for not being able to foresee and prevent this experience in time. It is highly likely that what he perceives to be betrayal by those of his gender is in fact an experience that intensified his trauma of injustice.

Healing injuries:

Your trauma of betrayal is close to healing if you no longer experience such violent emotions when someone or something upsets your plans.

You loosen your grip more easily. Let me remind you: to loosen your grip means to loosen your attachment to the result, to get rid of the desire for everything to go only according to your plan.

You no longer try to be the center of gravity. When you are overwhelmed by pride in the work done, you feel good even when others do not notice or recognize your merits.