Why Does A Man Break Up With His Mistress? Understanding Why A Married Man Leaves His Mistress?

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Why does a man break up with his mistress? Fighting for married men (including for their wallets), many mistresses try to intimidate their wives, create a panic mood in them, set them up to surrender, to voluntarily abandon their husbands. For this, myths are created about the alleged total superiority of mistresses over wives in age, sexuality, appearance, character, etc. Myths that a wife is definitely doomed to defeat in a battle for her husband. These myths themselves are actively being introduced into society through TV shows, the Internet, social networks, etc. However, it is important to remember that, depending on the general characteristics of the situation, only 10-20% of all mistresses achieve success. That is, only one or two out of ten. In other cases, infidelity ends without the man leaving the family, that is, breaking the connection and stopping communication with his mistress.

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Moreover, if we take all the stories of the separation of mistresses and married men for 100%, then the patterns of this separation can be represented as follows:

- about 20% of the separation occurs at the initiative of men;

- about 40% of the separation occurs at the initiative of mistresses;

- in about 60%, parting occurs as a result of chaotic, numerous and repetitive conflicts, which are in the nature of manipulations and behind which, in fact, lies the fact that none of the partners wants to part. Just to get what they want from a partner, men and women bluff, feigning suffering and a complete willingness to end the relationship. However, this game in itself gradually tires the lovers psychologically, teaches them to do without each other and motivates them to search for an alternative source of sex, money, comfortable communication and everything else. Who started it and who finished it, in fact, no longer matters much. Although, according to my observations, the beginning of this process is usually typical for women who cannot put up with the role of a "supporting woman" for a long time, with which a mistress usually begins.

In general, you can see for yourself: although on the initiative of men, relationships with mistresses do not end so often (dependence on good sex on the side is actually very strong), nevertheless, this happens in every fifth betrayal. Now, in this article, I will honestly reveal to you the reasons and those motives thanks to which men still gain moral strength to end the relationship with their mistress. In practice, there are usually fifteen of them:

15 reasons why men break up with their mistresses:

1. The man's conscience woke up, he felt ashamed of his betrayal.

It doesn't happen very often, but it does happen. Usually, due to:

A. Very loving behavior of the wife and / or child, when the man was literally moved to tears. This is especially true if a man has children under ten years old, especially preschoolers. It is almost impossible to abandon a small child to a normal man (if the wife behaves appropriately).

B. Sudden serious illness / injury to the wife or child, other threat to their life (up to suicide attempts).

B. The birth of a child in the family, the restoration of intimacy. (A lot of cheating happens due to the fact that during the pregnancy of the wife, the husband does not get enough sex)

D. Receiving sexual release from a mistress. After a period of meetings, having satisfied his previously accumulated sexual hunger (due to the passivity of his wife), the man came to his senses, the hormones stabilized, he was released, the level of rationality increased markedly. Upon careful analysis of the situation, the man did not find anything significant in communicating with his mistress, his motivation to continue communication fell.

D. Religious or national traditions in which the man was brought up. Again: the sexual steam was released, rationality was restored and it became obvious that this connection contradicts the entire previous life path of a man.

E. Obtaining information about such unworthy behavior of a mistress (her infidelities, etc.), which comes into stark contrast with the very worthy behavior of his wife.

2. The man became afraid of the consequences of his betrayal.

This happens quite often. Usually, due to:

A. Understanding the material risks that may arise in the process of divorce: dividing a business, losing real estate, deteriorating relations with the wife's relatives can bring down a career; the wife is the owner of the business or property, etc.

B. Understanding the reputational risks that may arise during the divorce process. This is especially unpleasant for politicians, officials, public figures; those who work with their wife; those who work with a mistress whose reputation is questionable, etc.

C. The tough position of all children on the categorical rejection of the betrayal of their father, their refusal to communicate with him and his new companion. The man loves them and is afraid of losing them.

D. Awareness of latent or explicit threats to a man's life, self-esteem or big goals of a man (etc.), possible from the mistress, her other men (former or potential other lovers), her family, etc.

D. The shock of a man after a stressful situation occurs with him or with someone from his social circle, related to the topic of mistresses. For example: his friend or himself got pregnant with a mistress; acquired venereal disease; too much money was spent in an attack of love or alcoholic psychosis; a malfeasance has been committed; a criminal offense has been committed, etc.

F. Sobering up and freeing a man from that alcohol or drug addiction, which contributed to his inappropriate behavior and increased psychological dependence on his mistress (who understood all this and in every possible way condoned the preservation of the addiction that was beneficial to her).

3. In a pair of lovers, the "chemistry" of love has disappeared: the level of sex hormones and / or mutual sexual attraction has decreased.

Usually, due to:

A. The long-term nature of this relationship, when everything has become a routine not only in the family, but even in the relationship with his mistress.

B. The appearance in a man of another additional lover or a new object of sighing.

B. Sexual activation of the wife in the family.

D. The emergence of risks of losing a wife, who suddenly sharply improved her external image and by her behavior caused jealousy in her cheating husband (she herself could have a lover or simply fell in love with someone);

Note: When the level of attraction of a mistress to a married partner decreases (there are many reasons for this) and she grows cold, this only provokes the man himself even more, and he tries to reignite his mistress.

E. Risks of losing a wife who suddenly went up the career or financial ladder of success.

4. The man fell ill and / or aged, his sexual needs logically decreased, the mistress was simply not needed.

A man can still communicate with her for some time by inertia, gradually losing momentum. However, the end of the story is just around the corner. This is typical for men 40+ and especially 50+.

5. The man is psychologically tired of the constant pressure on him from his mistress, her eternal blackmail and hysterics.

A woman can be young, beautiful and sexy, but so absurd and scandalous, incapable of productive cooperation and independent development that she turns into the famous "suitcase without a handle": "It's a pity to leave, but it's harder to carry …". The forces are gradually leaving. From here, the suitcase, one day, is left.

6. The man is tired of direct pressure on him from his wife.

If the wife suspected something was wrong and increases her own pressure on her husband, and the mistress either could not reveal her positive potential of the “receiving party”, remaining in a passive role, or presses on the man herself, the pressure of the “usual woman” (behind whose back life, property and children) may be stronger. Of course, if the wife herself only puts pressure on, without improving the format of the family, in the end, she will also lose to the new mistress. However, she may well have time to push her existing mistress back.

7. The man is tired of the simultaneous pressure on him from his wife and mistress.

In this case, the man moves away from his wife, but not to the existing basic mistress, but to neutral territory: to his parents; to your other home; to the country house; to friend; to the hotel, etc. If at this moment he meets another girl, she will be able to draw out her winning lottery ticket.

If he does not meet one, he will be taken over by one of his women (wife or lover) who shows great flexibility in their behavior.

8. The man is tired of the pressure of his social circle, especially his parents.

If the existing wife (whatever she is) has a very warm relationship with the parents of the cheating husband, and the man himself is very attached to them, this can be a very powerful factor that will lead to a harsh rejection of the mistress by the parents and the gradual cessation of the "left relationship".

9. The man is tired of financially providing for his mistress.

This is a fairly common situation. Usually, it is connected with the fact that:

A. The man's own financial situation worsened: the business was in crisis; career growth has stalled; the man was fired; illegal enrichment schemes (bribes, etc.) were temporarily blocked, etc.

B. The amount of expenses for a family has noticeably increased: paid education of children, illness of relatives, protracted construction, etc.

C. The financial appetites of the mistress grow, and her effectiveness as a sexual partner or simply a person who is pleasant to talk to, decreases.

D. The lover openly tries to impose financial responsibility on the man not only for herself, but also for her parents, siblings, children from past relationships, etc.

D. The mistress turned out to be a bad entrepreneur and manager, completely failing those business projects that a married man created for her, or gave her in trust.

E. As he communicates with his mistress, a man learns more and more about her past debts, alcohol or drug addiction, general problem (etc.), is horrified, realizes that he will not "pull" such a woman.

10. The mistress greatly offended the man.

This is a fairly common situation if a married man has a strong character. Usually, it develops due to the fact that:

A. A man is tired of being jealous of his mistress and living in conditions that she either cheats on him regularly, or is about to do it.

B. The man is tired of the constant double life of his girlfriend and her deceptions.

C. The lover refused to give birth to her married sponsoring lover; caught using contraceptive methods; made an abortion from him, etc.

D. The mistress clearly has a negative attitude towards the man's children, openly insults his parents, his wife (with her generally decent behavior).

D. The mistress did not support her man or openly betrayed him during a conflict in a work collective where both partners work.

E. The mistress did not support her man or openly betrayed him during his conflict or fight with other men; during his criminal prosecution; when his health and financial situation deteriorate.

11. A man or his mistress change their place of residence, and therefore the logistics of communication becomes inconvenient.

Such scenarios are typical for situations when:

A. A man or his mistress for some reason moves to live in another area of the city, another city, another region, another country. Dating becomes difficult, it takes too much time, effort and money. Sexual sheepskin is no longer worth the candle.

B. The man or his mistress met because one of the couple systematically came to this settlement for work (on a business trip). This work is over, a legal reason for travel and meetings, too.

12. Communication faded, as the joint work ended.

This is a common situation when lovers have worked together in the same organization. After the completion of a common project or the dismissal of someone from the couple and moving to another place of work, new sympathy for other people appears there, which finally extinguishes the motive for continuing the relationship.

13. The man realized the futility of living together with his mistress.

Most often, this matters after a man has lived with his mistress for some time and is convinced:

A. In its total mismanagement. And for him, a well-established life is of great importance and he is clearly better at his wife.

B. In its problematic nature, when depression is replaced by scandals.

B. In the impossibility of establishing a common language with the existing children of the mistress from past relationships.

D. In the previously hidden psychological dependence of the mistress on her parents, other relatives or girlfriends.

14. The mistress turned out to be sexually uninteresting.

This is one of the most common reasons. If the mistress could not offer the man a noticeably larger range of options for sexual games than his existing wife, or less and less often enters into an intimate relationship with him, then the very expediency of these relations disappears.

15. The mistress has noticeably launched her appearance.

This is a rather rare reason, but it also has a place to be. If a mistress gradually lost her feminine attractiveness (due to gaining excess weight, avoiding a vivid image, general slovenliness, etc.), and this is important for a man, this reduces his sexual motivation, "chemistry" decreases and the connection stops. Especially if at the same time the external image of the wife and her sexuality have noticeably improved.

TOTAL:

As you can see, mistresses are also under the sword of Damocles of the most varied risks of losing interest in themselves from their married partner. Moreover, more often than not, the sum of several of the listed factors is triggered at once! That is why, mistresses almost all the time are in the same stress that gradually destroys their psyche and health, provokes them morally, financially and legally to put pressure on a married man, thereby creating in him many of those motives for parting that I have listed above.

In general, wives who have learned that their husband has a mistress, in no case should despair and give up, agreeing to a divorce and losing the father of their children, property and prospects. It is necessary to correctly analyze the personality of the mistress and the strategy of her management of her husband in order to choose the right "antidote". Then, act, act and act again!

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