How To Keep A Man? To Be Married, You Have To Learn Not To Want To Be Married

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

The social, cultural, religious attitude: "A man is a supervalue in a woman's life," has crippled the fate of entire generations of women. I believe that only a woman who is free from such a belief is able to build healthy partnerships with a man, without falling into sacrifice and humiliation, without manipulating a man with guilt, so as not to lose him, to keep him without making destructive attempts for herself and the man to keep him. at any cost. After all, a guilty man will not go anywhere, he is easy to manage. Therefore, it is so beneficial to be his own victim.

Only a woman who can live a happy life without a man is just the most capable of building healthy, equal relationships with him. Therefore, I am very unpleasantly touched by articles of all kinds of specialists on the topic: "How to keep a man?" This further harms the psyche of a woman and the psyche of a man as well. The value of a relationship should not be based on fear of loneliness, fear of loss, and feelings of guilt and shame. These are bad regulators of relationships.

Fear - "I will do everything, I will endure everything, so as not to lose you and not survive the pain of loneliness";

Guilt - "I will give you such a great feeling of guilt that you never get away from me" - see above the fear of loss and the fear of loneliness;

Shame - "It's a shame at this age not to be married and not have children, I'm some kind of inferior woman."

If you build a relationship with a man based on the above experiences, then sooner or later you will come to what you are afraid of and what you avoid. In a relationship with a man, you will take every day that small step towards loss and loneliness, without noticing it yourself, completely unconsciously, in order to heal from the fear virus, in order to finally live this fear of loneliness, go this way, having come into contact with the very core of the problem. which drains many generations of women in order to give your soul, your psyche a chance to develop, grow up through a crisis.

You will humiliate yourself, endure, lose yourself in a relationship with him, get angry, humiliate him, command him and maybe take revenge and manipulate on his guilt and fear of losing you. And this is what has led to the loneliness and loss of more than one woman. To be in a relationship, you need to be able to be happy outside of it.

And this also applies to men. Otherwise - Codependency is a virus of our time, psychopathizing the relationship between a man and a woman. A woman or a man in fear of loss, in fear of loneliness, in the experience of his helplessness to be alone in this life cannot feel like a worthy person, cannot but lose respect and self-respect, cannot but organize a relationship of a slave type, which in our time is called love. To be married, you have to learn not to want to be married.

As for the men. A woman frightened by loneliness is the lot of men who are not separated from their own mother. So your task is to work in this direction - otherwise the eternal game of "catch up with me if you can" with a woman is guaranteed to you until old age.