2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
We all certainly want harmonious, fulfilling relationships.
After all, you must agree that no achievements, travels, realized dreams will have that amazing aftertaste if there is no dear loved one with us, with whom we can share our happiness.
But often we begin to build relationships with the Other not knowing and not understanding ourselves at all.
We start a relationship by forgetting one important point: a relationship with someone is often a projection of our relationship to ourselves.
It happens that we have failed or simply did not try to create a harmonious relationship with our inner "I". Or, due to circumstances, this connection, although it exists, is twisted and destructive. In such cases, we, accordingly, will not be able to get what we want in a relationship with a partner.
An example is the wonderful Runaway Bride, starring Julia Roberts and Richard Gere.
Remember how, for the plot, she ran away from every wedding?
The secret of her escape was revealed at the very end of the film. The heroine, having gone through a difficult path of self-knowledge, tells her beloved man that she always knew who she was going to meet, but had no idea who she was (the one who was walking).
She designed these insights into a beautiful metaphor - the transfer of her "running shoes" to the property of her chosen one.
There is no unequivocal answer to the questions "Why do we not know ourselves?", "Why are we not fully aware of our true desires and emotional impulses?" After all, the reasons for this situation are very different and are based on our unique life experience.
But you can get closer to the clue by analyzing how we interact with the people around us.
Because, as noted above, in all our relationships, we unconsciously bring a projection of our internal interaction with ourselves.
And often what we most want to get from a partner is what we don’t give to ourselves.
For example, we want to be constantly admired and praised. Then it is advisable to ask the questions: "Am I satisfied (satisfied) myself (myself) with what and how I do?"
If you honestly talk to yourself, the answer will be negative …
Another variant.
It can be overly important for us that our partner is always protective, caring, and unconditional.
Then the questions to oneself may sound like this: "Do I know how to take care of myself?", "Do I know what I really need and how to get it?"
Of course, this is not about the fact that in a relationship you do not need to give the other acceptance, support, approval, etc.
It's about the measure of our need to receive it from another person.
The path of self-knowledge and self-understanding is not easy and difficult, but very interesting and resourceful.
Try to stand on this Path and walk it with You and for Yourself!
Believe me, all those obstacles and difficulties that you overcome in the process will definitely be worth what you get in the end!
If it's scary to try it yourself, then I can help you with this.
But remember that the doors of happiness always open from the inside, and no one except you can do it if you don't want to …
With love, IRINA Pushkaruk
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