2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
In the footsteps of Nastenka …
Remember the fairy tale film "Morozko" with Natalya Sedykh in the title role, on which more than one generation of Soviet children grew up? The episode where the lightly dressed Nastenka sits under the Christmas tree, and Morozko walks around, the cold grows from this, and he asks: “Are you warm, girl? Is it warm for you, red? " And the girl answers him with frozen blue lips, shivering from the cold: “Warmth, grandfather. Warmth, darling."
An eerie scene … isn't it? But the same happens in real life
Imagine this situation. He lives so “frosty” for himself and now he started to do something, actively involving others. He can ask others a question: "Are you comfortable?" or not to ask - this is how the chip will fall. And the “nastenka” (regardless of gender and age) say or demonstrate by their behavior: “Everything is all right! This is important for you and I am glad to do it”
A fairy tale is a fairy tale - everything ended well. There was even a mild ARI. Nastenka Morozko presented wealth for her patience and a good groom arrived in time.
But as life shows, "frosts" are doing their job and continue to live on, not thinking at all about rewarding "nastenki" with the blessings of the world. And that's okay. Well, this is not a magician - Morozko from a fairy tale, but ordinary people - spouses, children, parents, colleagues or friends. And this is not a fabulous test for frost resistance and patience, but ordinary everyday situations.
The situations are common - from real life. Maybe you had such
A call from a friend in the midst of your work - it is very important for her to share something extremely interesting, as a result of 2 hours and the planned article, as if it had happened. The husband's demand to stay at home, because he is in a bad mood instead of visiting a friend. Going to visit relatives when you feel unwell, so as not to upset mom.
The 30-minute delay of a friend due to which they had to cancel the next meeting. On time salary not transferred to the card, because the employer once again forgot to do this, as a result, a vacation ticket was not purchased during the discount period, etc. It is possible that now your situations are coming up from your memory.
But these people just did what was convenient for them and that's it. It never occurs to them to reward you with countless treasures. they do not even suspect that a sacrifice has been made, especially if the situation is typical for you.
I will assume that at the time of these events, you yourself are unlikely to be aware of what is happening
Only at the end there is an unpleasant sediment on the soul, annoyance, a dull irritation to oneself and to this person. And in the evenings you feel dissatisfaction with yourself and the past day. It seems that the day was eventful, it seems that so many things have been done, but there is no satisfaction from oneself and from the day. And more and more often there are uncontrollable outbursts of bad mood or unexpected ailments.
Equilibrium in opposites
Dear reader, if you recognize yourself in what you read above, then you have a wonderful quality - you are pleasant and comfortable to the people around you. Surely they love to communicate with you and are drawn to you. Do you know how to be pleasant and comfortable for yourself? Do you know how to satisfy your own need for comfort and care?
The emotional discomfort that you feel is an indicator that the balance in life is imbalanced. Make it comfortable for others, forgetting about yourself. Equilibrium is found when a person stands and walks on two legs: left - right, altruism - egoism, everyone around - I, I need - I want.
How to stop being “nastenka”?
- Start by asking yourself the question in these situations, “Do I want this? Is this situation convenient for me now?"
- The next important question is: “What do I myself want now? What can I do to make it more convenient for ME?"
- Look at your home, relationships, work, the way you spend your free time, your health, your lifestyle in terms of your convenience. Does this all suit you? Write down a list of what you don't like.
- Now look at each item. What can you do today to make it more convenient and comfortable for you?
- Make a plan for how you will do it.
You already know how to create comfort for others, start developing a new quality in yourself - to create comfort for yourself:)
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