2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
The theme of self-development, due to its fashionableness, popularity and vagueness, is filled with a gigantic amount of schiza, illusions, quackery, self-deception, etc.
How to understand that you are really developing, and not engaged in "pushing water in a mortar" and "pouring from empty to empty"?
Let's look at the criteria by which a Mature and honest person differs from an Immature person who lies to himself recklessly.
1. A mature person realizes and understands the incompleteness and limitations of his knowledge and competencies, “I know that I don’t know anything” - this is about her. An immature person with inadequate self-esteem, as a rule, considers himself “the smartest”, they say, “I already know everything and can do it”.
2. An immature person is not ready to endure the discomfort that inevitably accompanies the process of solving complex professional and life tasks and learning new things. An immature person does not want to strain and force their brains to work. Whereas a mature personality considers difficult and complex tasks as a challenge, as an interesting and exciting development process.
3. An immature person treats mistakes and failures as a life misfortune, being unable to reflect on their life experiences. Whereas a mature person perceives mistakes as life lessons and draws appropriate conclusions from them.
4. An immature person is painfully fixed on their flaws and weaknesses, which often leads to failure. A Mature personality, on the contrary, seeks to develop and strengthen their strengths, abilities and talents in order to win at their expense.
5. Having achieved any noticeable success, the Immature personality stops, preparing to "rest on his laurels" and thereby instantly gets out of the competition. A mature person always strives upward, rightly believing that “there are no limits to perfection”, that each new achievement is just another step upward.
6. An immature person is primarily interested in the opportunity to get a result. A mature personality is focused on the very process of achieving a goal and getting maximum pleasure and effect from it.
7. An immature person always considers other people or external circumstances to be the source of his failures, mistakes or difficulties. A mature person knows that a person himself is, first of all, the source of all his problems and considers himself the cause of all changes in his life.
8. An immature person is very dependent on other people's opinions and assessments, social approval and the feeling that she "did the right thing" is important for her. A mature person does not care what others think and say, because for her, only her own interests and the goal to which she goes are important.
9. The immature person is focused on achieving short-term goals and getting quick results. For a Mature person, the goal is the yardstick of life, so it acts in a long-term strategic perspective.
10. An immature person is afraid and does not like to make serious, responsible and risky decisions, preferring in this case either to do nothing, or to shift the decision-making onto others. Mature individuals make all decisions in their lives by themselves, using intuition and preliminary studying the situation.
11. An immature person does not know how to perceive feedback, being offended when specific facts of his biography are pointed out to her. A mature person is ready to pay money to be pointed out to her those things and circumstances that she, for one reason or another, does not notice.
12. An immature person is engaged in something interesting to her only "according to her mood", or as long as it gives her some kind of pleasure. If serious difficulties and difficulties arise, the case is immediately terminated. A mature person treats his business professionally, methodically doing it day after day, using complex tasks to grow his skills.
13. An immature person relies on myths, shizu, superficial advice and book knowledge in his life. A mature person - on his own and someone else's reflected experience, specific facts of material reality and the practical experience of professionals and colleagues.
14. An immature person believes that there are certain "universal formulas", "iron rules" and "eternal principles" that work in any situation. A mature person understands that there are only tendencies of probability, that much depends on the context, and that even a tiny factor can completely negate the operation of any "laws".
15. An immature person, having learned some new idea or trick, immediately rushes to invest all his strength, time and material resources in its implementation. A mature person acts rationally, having previously tested the received idea in practice and evaluating its effectiveness.
16. An immature person prefers to act by trial and error, stupidly going through the options known to her (and by no means always working and effective), without really understanding how they can improve the situation. A mature personality is guided by Vladimir Lenin's rule of "concrete analysis of a specific situation" and, thanks to this, he consistently cuts out entire classes of non-working solutions, choosing in the end what will actually give a result.
17. An immature person thinks linearly and statically, in terms of objects and beliefs that one cause gives rise to one effect. A mature person thinks systemically, considering reality as a dynamic interaction of complex systems with feedback, and objects and phenomena as transient processes, where one effect can be generated by several causes, and one cause can give rise to several consequences.
Of course, these are not all the criteria and differences. There may be many more. This is not important. It is important that you can use these 17 criteria as some kind of "reference points" for assessing your own personality and your own life strategy, your own self-realization.
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Good luck with quality development and setting the right goals!
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