2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Each person wants to see next to him who will be close to him, dear, the one who will take care of him, the one whom the person himself will love. Both men and women are looking for someone with whom they want to live their lives. Of course, certain requirements are put forward for a future companion or life partner, and they are individual for each person. There is no universal model. Today we are talking about women.
It is believed that it is more difficult for women to find a partner, it is more difficult, as confirmation of this is said about the social conditions of life, and about the health (more often, men for some reason), and about the norms of behavior in society. The emotional characteristics of women's communication are also mentioned. Of course, all these reasons have a place to be and really have an impact. However, based on practice, we can conclude that the problem is not only this.
A woman who is interested in finding a man very often makes her own list of a set of qualities that her future chosen one should have. If she meets a man of quality that does not correspond to her list, then she will not pay attention to him. A woman is looking for her, as it seems to her, a man of dreams. And those who meet, she absolutely does not like and do not fit. Often, a woman makes such a conclusion at the first visual contact: - “He has everything written on his face” (and that he may be sick or worried about the death of someone close, such an option is out of consideration). She thinks over and creates in herself a picture of how he will achieve her location. Often there is such a phrase - "A man must conquer me", when you ask: - "Why do you need to conquer?", Answer: - "To prove that he is a man (knight)." Sometimes a woman comes up with such "terrible" obstacles-tests for herself and her future partner, imagines how her man overcomes them, what kind of hero he will become and falls in love with his own fairy tale. It rarely comes true, but even if this happens (miracles happen), after a while the hero will still have to be debunked because, for example, snoring, picking his nose, eating mashed potatoes not with a fork, but with a tablespoon. The woman is upset - again, not the one. The best option after the "conquest" would be the disappearance of the hero with the words "wait for me, I will return" and galloped away).
A person cannot have only good or only bad qualities, there is always a balance of negative and positive. "Why do you love him?" a question to which women answer in different ways, but there is a common one, and this is true for men too. People like certain qualities in another, but they do not like others, and if the former outweigh the latter, that is, they are considered more valuable, then they pay less attention to the latter, as if they “close their eyes”. Moreover, it so happens that those qualities that at the beginning of a relationship were considered good over time may well become bad. Any quality has two sides: a financially secure man, as a rule, works a lot, so it is in vain to expect that he will pay more attention to a woman than to work. Either money or attention. There are, of course, exceptions.
It is important to understand that everyone has their own criteria for assessing qualities, someone is pleased to see that the husband is working, and someone, on the contrary, wants more attention to themselves. Note that rarely does anyone in a couple talk about what he or she thinks is good for himself, and what is bad, what he wants more, especially often this is manifested at the very beginning of the relationship. Namely, the lack of perception of the balance of the partner's qualities greatly affects the relationship, and often not the best side. There comes a moment when attention is fixed only on negative qualities. The consequences of this are fairly obvious.
The question of choice, especially when it comes to a life partner, is of course very important. But when solving it, it is worth remembering that this is only your decision and your choice, therefore, it is not always true to be guided by the opinion of others about the necessary qualities of a partner.
Live with joy! Anton Chernykh.
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