2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
"I will help anyone"
You may be a genius with talent and endless resources, but there is still a second - your client, and he may have limitations, and then you may not succeed. He may be able to help, but you will not. Perhaps the seventh or tenth colleague will reap these laurels, because by this moment the client will already have more strength and ability to withstand the therapy, maybe he will simply find a suitable way, approach, person. And you … well, you will learn to deal with professional defeat.
"The client should leave the therapy satisfied"
If he is always happy, check yourself if you did not give him Thai massage instead of psychotherapy. Where, like you, he will place all his pain, horror, rage, discontent, madness, disgust, powerlessness (each has its own set, of course, but you will probably get something from this set if you are not Thai masseuse).
"The client must change a lot in the course of therapy."
If this happened thanks to you, the therapist, then you are a Magician or a Villain. One of the most important tasks of the psyche is the preservation and strengthening of identity. The client comes to become different, and meanwhile he becomes more and more himself. And there is no other way. On the way to this understanding, he will certainly be disappointed. Perhaps you too. Still, the idea of being different is so tempting. But behind this pass is freedom from attempts to remake oneself, and clients who are freed from this process are usually happily thrown into building and mastering their lives. Not to say that they will not change at all, but, most likely, they will become wider, discover the closed in themselves, try what they did not dare to, learn a lot about themselves and dispose of it at their own discretion.
"A psychotherapist or psychologist is a healthy person in itself."
There are no healthy ones, there are under-examined ones, in a sense. Psychologists, often and mostly "wounded healers", that is, people who themselves received psychological trauma or encountered psychological distress, otherwise, why would they be doing this strange thing? The best that a psychologist-psychotherapist can do for the quality of his work is to undergo his own therapy and supervision, but, alas, this will not be a guarantee of quality work. Working through and discussing (optimistically) helps him know from the inside out how to deal with the experience of ill health and lead the other to greater well-being.
"You are a super-therapist and you always succeed."
If you think so, then visit, perhaps, a psychiatrist, maybe you have somehow lost contact with reality, you never know, the work is difficult with us. Periodic doubts and the ability to see and discuss difficulties and mistakes is a natural and only option to recycle the infinitely complex process of meeting two psyches, one of which must accept and realize the inability of full knowledge, therefore, each meeting she risks meeting the unknown and the unpredictable, and she needs to withstand it … Therefore, “psychotherapy with a guarantee” is either a publicity stunt or the therapist's self-forgetful fantasies about himself.
"You are a very so-so therapist and you don't know everything, but other therapists know everything and work in the right way."
You just don't have enough vacation, therapy, or a good supervisor. Look around, go to conferences: every method has its limitations. Every working therapist has a suitcase of difficult or failed cases. If there was a universal method, everyone would be treated only by it, if there was an ideal therapist, then we would look into his eyes and touch, is he alive?
"We have a very difficult but most interesting job on Earth."
But this, in my opinion, is true).
What psychotherapeutic myths will you formulate?
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