Calling Myths

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

There is such a job - to sit at work, wait for Fridays. Although the topic of vocation, destiny, finding oneself is now popular, all these ideas are faced with tough skepticism. Dreams of looking for a job in your life are shattered on the boat of everyday life. Moreover, all this happens in the head. Without reaching minimal changes in improving life, we stop ourselves with illusory distortions of thinking. As a result, dreams remain just dreams, and the vocation remains a child's fantasy.

Therefore, I want to deal with several myths that I often hear about work and vocation. Each myth contains a part of the truth, but somewhat distorted. This is what we will analyze today.

Myth 1. Working for pleasure is a kindergarten. Adults are doomed to responsibility, hard earning of means for food

Truth: Yes, the desire for pleasure, curiosity is from childhood. Yes, in adulthood we are responsible for ourselves and for those who depend on us.

Distortion: Responsibility is opposed to pleasure.

Our thinking is arranged in such a way that we need to oppose some concepts, find black and white, good and bad. This gives support and stability: I know what should and what is unacceptable, I have something to rely on, so I control the world (kagbe) and reduce my anxiety. If you translate this feature into a career, then it is easier for a person to perceive rigid rules, for example, I have to work with those whom I was taught in order to earn a piece of bread for myself and my family. And this vocation is too chaotic and unstable.

There is nothing wrong. Only this is an incomplete picture. Sooner or later we learn that white is not white at all, it contains the entire spectrum of shades. And the world is not so controlled and unambiguous, it (oh horror !!!) is quite chaotic and does not belong to us. Our inner child asks out and shouts: "I hate this job!", And we ignore him and continue to plow. The part of us that is responsible for inspiration, enthusiasm, surprise, joy begins to acidify. In other words, we die, we stop feeling, feeling that we are not living in vain. It's scary, and the Friday phenomenon comes into play. Carnival of permissiveness of one evening to atone for a week's hard labor "must". The dose should be increased every Friday because the tolerance is increasing.

Conclusion

Pleasure - it is not a whim and not a luxury. This is a signal from the psyche that we are going in the right direction, we hear our need and satisfy it. And, by the way, adulthood suggests that responsibility for our own functioning (not only physiological) now lies only with us. And if we ourselves have chosen a boring business that is not related to our vocation, then it is not worth saying that we are doing this for the sake of someone. We ourselves deprive ourselves of strength and motivation. And we are unlikely to achieve a result, both in work and in the family in a similar state.

Even if you are stuck in a boring job, listen to yourself, look for something that has minimal interest, and go for it. Your Inner Child is a source of inspiration and motivation and will thank you

For skeptics: I am not suggesting that work should be 100% fun. This is wrong. But it is precisely this feeling that gives strength to overcome the difficulties that arise everywhere.

Myth 2. If everyone works by vocation, then who will repair the taps?

Truth: Often, the understanding of a vocation is limited to ONLY interest.

Distortion: Assumption that everyone's vocation is photography)

Do you really fix the taps? Perhaps you have golden hands. And now I'm not kidding. Vocation and destiny are concepts that contain several important criteria. We have already discussed one of them - this is pleasure and interest. But this is not the end of it.

If you dissect to study a person who works by vocation, you can see the most curious things. Besides interest, these are abilities. Roughly speaking, if you do not have the ability for manual work, mechanics, you will not stay in crane repairmen. Likewise, don't linger with professional photographers if you don't have a sense of color, composition, etc. If you want to find your calling - pay attention to the fact that you do it easily, by itself. It is the combination of pleasure and ability that can produce astounding results in your search for the job of your dreams.

And another important component of the vocation is the willingness to constantly learn and develop. And the strength for this, of course, gives interest and pleasure. Of course, by being strong and determined, you will learn anything. But sooner or later you will be exhausted, and even the work of a vocation will seem hateful. Return to point 1.

ZY Often such a myth is voiced when "Everyone must" sits inside. If you hear this voice, look at what it stands on guard. I would venture to suggest that behind it lies the fear of change, including the regret that you are working not at all by calling, but by inertia.

Conclusion:

Do not be afraid that having listened to your intuition about your own vocation, the world will turn upside down and there will be no one to fix your tap. Most likely, your work is related to your abilities, otherwise you would not have stayed on it. It remains only to add an element of pleasure and desire to develop.

And if, nevertheless, what you are doing is given to you with great effort (each process), pay attention to those things that you get "automatically", easily, even if you have not done them before. Ask your colleagues what they think you are doing easily. If you do it anonymously, you will be very surprised.

For skeptics: If you don't have the ability to cross-stitch, but you really like it - embroider yourself a dress, pants or a napkin for a friend. Treat yourself! But you don't have to make a business out of it. And yes, abilities can be developed.

Myth 3. Everyone strives for success. The vocation is secondary and has little to do with success

Truth: Calling work may not really give you all the riches of the world.

Distortion: Excessive generalization and popularization of the word "Success"

This myth is similar to the first, but I want to dwell on it in more detail because of this magic word "Success". Is this what you imagine when you hear "Successful person"? I didn’t even begin to fantasize because I was biased, and turned to Google. He gave out a million pictures of a handsome guy in a suit. This man either jumps over the ribbon (the suit must have been torn), or shakes the air with his fists with the delight of his success. And in front of him is certainly an expensive car or a naked woman. In other words, the word "success" can be easily replaced with the words - money and status. Both are beautiful in themselves. And the problem is that success, as an external measure of fulfillment and solvency, has replaced everything. It’s as if everything we do has to be consistent with an external assessment, which can temporarily support motivation, but is not a source of natural and constant internal energy. This is very exhausting, and again we return to point 1.

The work of a vocation unconditionally presupposes success in the sense of achieving goals and gaining recognition. But the purpose is not limited to this. Values come into play that support inspiration over the long term, as opposed to the momentary achievement of the task. If your business meets the convictions of your soul, no matter how pompous it sounds, then you have found a source of long-term and fertile motivation.

In addition, if we were to make the word “success” a measure of everything, it would be worth including at least the health and harmony of relationships in it. Because happiness is in balance. So I would like to ask those peasants in suits in the pictures who are jumping over the barrier: "Guys, are you happy?" They certainly do not answer me, as they are drawn, but their smiles seem to me tortured and a little fake.

Conclusion: If you want to achieve success, first, clearly decipher what success is for you. Would you be happy if you only have this? Or maybe you should add something? Or just stop cramming individual happiness and satisfaction into one hackneyed word.

And yet, if you want to follow your vocation, monitor your values and principles. Are you stepping on their throats, or whatever the values are?

For skeptics: I am not calling for paradise in a hut and giving up money and recognition. This is a call to look into yourself, to understand what is important. Because in your declining years you will one way or another think about who you lived for.

Let's sum up the results:

Do you want to be happy and satisfied? Look for your calling and move there with small but confident steps. It will simply not always be possible, but it is precisely following your values, abilities, catching pleasure on the go, you can feel alive more often, and life is fulfilled and happy!

And I have a gift for you. We have filmed free lessons "How to Make Work a Source of Inspiration". There are exercises. About abilities, pleasure and, of course, about a vocation.

Watch and work with pleasure!