2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
There are many exaggerated and distorted ideas that we have gleaned from films, books, and simply heard somewhere from someone stories.
We are full of these images and more often than not we perceive them as something real, or in any case reflecting reality in one way or another.
This applies to too many areas of life that cinema and fiction have touched: sexual, romantic, love, and many others, including relationships, family, friendship, success, creativity, work, leisure, happiness, peace and death.
It seems to us that a drowning person will certainly shout for help and waving his hands madly, giving clear understandable signals. But this is not the case. Most often, a person drowns in silence, without a single sound, and does not jerk his legs or arms, and does not make sounds - he simply has no time for this. The man is busy with survival. Therefore, when a person drowns, it happens in silence, quietly, barely discernible. Yes, there are other cases when panic leads to other manifestations close to pictures from films, but this is rare - one in ten.
It seems to us that we are able to learn a lot, that we are able to recognize love, happiness, our vocation. That it will be something quite definite and concrete, and of course we will not pass by. It seems to us that this is easy to find out. And of course we have ready-made pictures for everything - what exactly and by what signs to recognize. And we focus on these ideas of ours.
For example, we are sure that a happy person is necessarily cheerful, positive, euphoric or ecstatic, with a certain facial expression and very specific behavior. We have a picture in our head with which we check. But this is a delusion. Connect with dawn, sunset, newborn baby, breeze on your cheek - you will feel happiness, real peace, in this moment you will feel peace and will be fully realized for a moment. And your behavior will be far from anything that plays, books, films, stories about happiness paint.
It seems to us that love is something from a retouched photograph of a photographer, or close to a kiss before the final credits of “Happy end”. And we miss what really exists, because our idea interferes with this, it does not allow us to feel, feel. He won't even notice.
When we read the text, trying to delve into the words that mean something, it is very easy to take these words literally, it is very easy to take words into words. But this is a mistake that leads to many distortions.
Neither the image nor the word is the very thing towards which it is directed. Not what it's about.
"The finger pointing to the moon is not the moon" - there is such an ancient saying.
Therefore, there is no real sex in porn. Because real sex is not for filming, not for cameras. And for sensations, for your presence in these sensations.
Therefore, intimacy is not a kiss, not sex, and not a beautiful joint house as in the picture, not a common cause and not even the noise of your children in the garden.
That is why love has nothing to do with any relationship at all. It is connected with you, with your sensation. With the way you perceive, feel life.
Therefore, happiness cannot be wrapped in any wrapper and cannot be bought or achieved. Nothing can bring this to a person - no image, no form, no circumstances and scenery and life events. Neither these nor others.
Because happiness is your state, how you feel life, how you feel.
If we have an image - the knowledge of what it is and what it should be, how it should happen to us, in what form it should come. It is this knowledge, our idea - like a barn lock on the door to everything real, present.
What we have drawn, what we represent is always a hindrance to living things, our own initial delusion.
Why do you think in all the stories, books, films and productions that try to touch real life, reflecting it, this image of life is so distorted, exaggerated and exaggerated?
Why is the present brought to the point of absurdity and clothed in such a clear, understandable, easily readable form? The form that can never be found in life, because in this form it simply does not exist.
Try to find the answer yourself, and share your options in the comments. In one of the following articles, we will take a closer look at this moment together.
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