2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Many people think that it is enough to talk to a friend or girlfriend - and the problem in the relationship or conflict or serious condition will go away. You can chat with a friend for free and the effect will be the same as if you went to a paid consultation with a psychologist. Misconceptions of many. Moreover, they are dangerous and bitter.
Difference 1.
A girlfriend or boyfriend is part of a family-friendly relationship. They are deeply emotionally involved in the ups and downs of your destiny. Their view will always be subjective, in your favor.
A specialist is a person from outside. He is not involved in family friendships. Accordingly, he sees your situation or conflict more objectively. From the side.
Difference 2.
A friend's opinion and advice may fluctuate depending on her mood as well as yours. Today she gives such advice, because you presented the situation from that angle, and tomorrow it is different.
The specialist is in a clear coordinate system, he will definitely pay attention to the fact that every time you present the situation under a different sauce. Perhaps you are avoiding something, you don’t want to meet with some experience? All this will be analyzed and unpacked at professional meetings. Which will help heal the pain or injury.
Difference 3.
A girlfriend or boyfriend will always be on your side. As you say, this is the strategy they will adhere to in order to support or cheer you up. This is great! But this distracts from the real solution to the problem, unfortunately.
The specialist will offer you to analyze all your strategies in relationships and conflicts, see the recurring scenario and understand the reasons that support the trigger. Together, you can work out the resource strategy and the necessary behavioral changes. This will put an end to emotional swings and repetitions.
Difference 4.
Sometimes it happens that personal secrets are spread all over the world. This happened to me in my youth. I had a good friend with whom I shared my experiences. And one day she found out that she was already discussing all this with her friends. So that they have something to talk about. I don't have any close contact with her anymore.
The specialist observes the right of confidentiality always and with everyone. Respect for the boundaries of someone else's world and experiences is the basis of psychotherapy.
Difference 5.
A friend or girlfriend, out of love for you, will sincerely console you. Saying how bad they are, and what a fine fellow you are. Of course it's great! But, unfortunately, it is fraught with a distorted perception of oneself. You risk never knowing why this conflict happened to you, why it repeats itself over and over again. Why it is impossible to build or establish relationships not only with others, but also with oneself.
With a specialist, moving at your own pace and, step by step, you will begin to open your inner world. Which is the key to changes in the external world. To a new quality of life. To new relationships with oneself and with others. Self-confidence and confidence.
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