2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Sometimes a person asks the question: "What is my value? Why do I value myself? Why do others value me?"
Value is what is valuable, meaningful, useful.
A person judges his own value in terms of significance to others. For example, "I value myself for a beautiful appearance, thanks to which I can have a lot of attention from men, I value myself for my intelligence, qualities of my character that allow me to have a good profession and income, to find mutual understanding with other people, I value my body, my health that help me achieve what I want and lead an active, fulfilling life, I value myself for being a good mother, "etc.
How important we are to others, we can understand, thanks to their feedback, according to their feelings, words, actions in relation to us.
As you can see, we value ourselves for something, like our relatives, colleagues, our environment.
Can you value yourself just like that, without being tied to society? Will others be able to appreciate us if we cease to be interesting and / or useful to them?
The value of an individual person can be measured by the scale of his family, community, city, country, world.
By and large, value is subjective. What is valuable to one person will not be valuable to another: what we are valuable to parents, for example, may conflict with our personal values.
Value can be limited by time: for example, a person saw value in himself while he was healthy and socially active, and when he fell ill, he lost interest in life, convincing himself of his own uselessness.
Is it worth evaluating yourself at all and looking for some value and meaning / justification for your life?
If you dig deeper, then everything that a person does is determined by his personal interests, not personal value.
A butterfly pollinates a flower not for reasons of benefit to nature, but for reasons that if it does not pollinate, it will die of hunger.
As Napoleon said, human behavior is driven by fear and self-interest. Of course, his words are not the ultimate truth, but I often find confirmation of this in life.
For example, a believer may be afraid of committing suicide, because, according to religious canons, suicides are not buried and they do not go to heaven.
In addition to our personal values, there are moral and ethical values: the norms and rules adopted in the country, universal human ideas about good and evil, what is bad and what is good, what is moral and what is immoral.
The observance of these values is also based on the personal interests of people in order to reduce the level of antisocialism and indifference in society.
To summarize: personal value is determined by the ability to realize and realize one's own interests, maintaining a balance with the interests of society. Everything strives for a balance, including a balance of interests.
Today's consultation led me to such reflections.
* Artist Richard Annert.
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