2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Many people think that "bad girls" are more likely to be victims of sexual abuse. Of course, dressing up in a sexy outfit and walking around in an unlit park in the evening is like walking on a construction site without a helmet. But this article is not about these girls. You will be very surprised, but "good girls" who are hammered into the rules of decency from childhood and good manners are at risk of "sexual abuse". It is very great to become victims of rape among decent girls. And education is to blame. By instilling good manners in girls, parents kill girls' instincts, or intuition.
A simple example. The parents of a five-year-old girl arrange a holiday at home, where guests are invited. And so, one of the guests, bending down to the girl, says to her in a "terrible voice": - Hello, how pretty you are! I will eat you! Direct plot from the fairy tale "Little Red Riding Hood". The child runs away in fright, crying loudly. And adults begin to laugh and calm her down: - Well, what are you uncle just kidding! He's kind! Come on, say hello to him, be a decent girl! And the girl, overcoming her fear, comes up to the "terrible uncle" and through tears stretches out her hand to him, saying in a timid voice: - Hello! And the uncle really turns out to be kind and cheerful. And the girl has an attitude that it turns out that the terrible may not be dangerous. Further more, and little by little intuition weakens, and the girl no longer pays to the ever quieter "bells" of her soul, shouting - Run!
A girl grows, fairy tales grow, and Little Red Riding Hood is replaced by Blue Beard. And when a stranger approaches a grown up decent girl on the street and asks to show her the way, the soul screams "Run." But the hammered parental attitude says: - It is not true, your soul is lying! It is impolite to offend people, he is quite a decent citizen, and his smile is pleasant. The parental attitude won over instinct, and the girl goes with the stranger, drowning her instincts, to show him the way. A few days later, my mother is crying in the hospital or in the cemetery: - This could not have happened to my daughter! She's a good, decent girl!
But, it was the mother who killed her daughter's instincts, without becoming a "she-wolf" for her, a protective mother, teaching her children the science of survival. Only by teaching the child wild instincts, by transferring the art of listening to the voice of the "wild woman", the voice of the soul, can the child be saved from the dangers of predators. Teach children how a she-wolf teaches wolf cubs
…. If something bigger than you and inspires danger, flee; if weaker - do as you want; if it is sick, leave it alone; if it has thorns, a sting, fangs or sharp claws, step back and go home; if it smells good, but metal jaws hold it, stay away.
Clarissa Pinkola Estes Runner with the Wolves. The female archetype in myths and legends"
Only in this way, by allowing a "wild woman" to grow in your girl's soul, you will protect her from dangers, and then it does not matter that she is wearing an ultra mini, or the outfit of a diligent schoolgirl, in a moment of danger, she will release fangs and claws into the light. Being a “wild woman” does not mean walking barefoot with unwashed hair. To be wild means to be able to feel the moment of danger and at that moment turn your hairpins on your shoes or in your hair into a formidable weapon.
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