2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Happiness. Do you need to break through a wall to be happy? Do I have to fight for happiness? So much is being said about it now, and women only do what they fight. Life is spent in struggle with oneself, circumstances or other people. And are the women who fought happy? What do we get as a result of the struggle? And now it's fashionable to shout that a woman should get everything easily. One phrase should get light no longer smack of lightness. So how can you go with the flow or against? Fight for happiness or trust fate?
- Learn to hear your inner voice. He always talks to them, through our desire or not desire for something, through the feeling that it is worth doing, but it is not, through easily I go somewhere and I do not want to go there at all. Our inner voice is an indicator of what is happening to us, but what sometimes we just don’t want to hear. The inner voice is clouded with concepts: good - bad, worth - not worth it, the best option is not the best option, parents will accept - parents will not accept. From childhood, we are given a system of our values and beliefs, but in most cases they interfere with us. And it is precisely this system that does not make it possible to receive easily, hear yourself and understand what you really want and what society requires from you. What to do? Try to trust, at least for a week, what you hear from the inside. You were invited somewhere, and you feel you want to go there, or something inexplicable stops you. When I was looking for a job, I conducted such an experiment, I went to those interviews that suited me in all respects, but there was a strange feeling: there was no need to go there. And oddly enough, every time I came, overpowering myself and my feelings, I was convinced that for some reason this was not what I needed. So I developed the skill of hearing my inner voice and trusting it. Can the inner voice deceive? I think so, if there is no trust in him. If there is trust, then there is no rumbling, like, this is a suitable position for me, but I missed it. But you will never know what they have saved you from if you were not allowed there. And perhaps most likely there are not at all the lessons that you should now go through.
- Develop a sense of acceptance of both conventionally good and bad. Remember that there are lessons that we must go through, no matter how unfair and painful they may seem. To accept does not mean to agree, to accept means to see that this happens and why it was given to you, and why it happened to you.
- Nothing happens by chance and chances are the most non-random things in the world. And there is a lot of evidence for that, I think everyone has at least a couple in stock. Accidents are just that thing that comes from nowhere, but somewhere it originated. You did not expect at all, but when you did not expect, some company was already looking for a person with your characteristics and characteristics. You thought that there was no more strength, but from somewhere a person came from who decided to help, you accidentally turned into the wrong street and met a person who would soon become loved. Sometimes we do not even suspect how much we have to go through, relatively speaking bad, before one day, very accidentally, it will be reborn into happiness. I am convinced that for those who listen little to themselves, this is how something good is formed, it comes through the bad.
- Accept yourself as you are. Each of us sometimes just needs someone's permission to be ourselves. After all, you were criticized so much, first in childhood by your parents, teachers and classmates, then by the men who came into your life. Indeed, only that they were your mirror. They didn’t accept you because you didn’t accept yourself. And if you need permission, then here it is: From now on, I allow you to be yourself. You can! Allowing is an internal thing, it cannot be described by any action or a list of actions. Allowing requires inner independence from others. Without fear of doing what you think is necessary, saying no when you don't want something. Ideally, our parents should have given us permission to be ourselves, accepting us as we are. But this is practically never the case. Therefore, when we grow up this permission, we can already give ourselves from that part of us that is called the inner parent. Our inner adult is able to help the parent allow the child to be who he is. It is the adult inner part of a person that is able to give him permission to be what he is. Considering the pros and cons, integrating them together and getting just a beautiful woman. Indeed, very often what we in ourselves consider to be minuses, others, on the contrary, perceive it as a plus. Hence the second component arises - the acceptance of all aspects of your personality. Acceptance of all aspects of your personality. We often divide what is in us into good and bad. As if some part of ourselves is good, everyone likes it, and the other part is not liked by others, not ourselves. Our shortcomings are a continuation of our merits. Another of our childhood illusions about the existence of our good parts and our bad ones. And if you look, then all the supposedly bad parts are those parts that our parents did not approve of, those that our parents thought we should change. Perhaps someone was too emotional, squeezed, restless or intractable, but a lot of everything. These manifestations were inconvenient for our parents, that's all. They did not find a way to cope with their child's emotionality, and to accept the child's isolation. And now you have grown up, but you have not stopped dividing yourself into bad and good parts. Everything is good and beautiful for you as it is. And only you can decide what is worth changing and what is not. And if your emotionality does not bother you, then just accept it, and do not fight it. And remember, any change starts with accepting the way it is now. You are the yardstick for yourself, because you are no longer a child, you are an adult and you can decide for yourself what is best for you.
- Live through the trauma. Trauma is not a thing that you can get rid of once and for all, the level of trauma can also vary. It happens that it takes years and months of working on a trauma in order to even slightly stop feeling the pain that arises when someone revives it within us. Injuries never go away once and for all, they change, become less painful, but do not go away once and for all. The desire to part with the trauma for good is like the desire to part with a part of yourself. Trauma is what has made you who you are over the course of your life, and to reject it is to hurt yourself even more. But you can fall in love with her, and suddenly noticing or feeling her, you can say to her: - "Hi, I see you, I'm here." Injuries love to be invisible, they are ready to stand up for everyone to see, but not the person himself. When you begin to understand that in many situations your behavior is dictated by pain from within, and not by you, you already have a feeling of control and a vision of not only your pain, but also the cause. From here, it becomes possible to change what is happening, and not to undergo behavior dictated by pain from the inside.
After working with at least five of these components, the feeling of struggle will diminish and the ability to get what you want will more easily loom on the horizon. Try not to force the events of your life, everything will come at the right time and in the best possible way. Changes will come when you are ready, sometimes we do not even have an inner readiness for the best, which means we will have to get the worst. But all this is temporary, in this world everything is temporary. Seemingly bad is just good hidden away
Author: Darzhina Irina Mikhailovna
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