2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Each of us at least once in our life experienced difficulty in making a certain important decision or choice in the current situation. This can be: choice of a life partner, self-determination, choice of country of residence, choice of treatment methods, and so on.
Making a decision is difficult and not always fast for us. Feelings, emotions, various life circumstances, attitudes, stereotypes are intertwined. The choice can cause feelings such as: sadness, sadness, longing, despair, confusion, anxiety, doubt, apprehension, confusion, etc.
What is holding us back in making a decision:
- anxiety for the correct choice and further future;
- fear of not meeting someone's standards and expectations;
- unwillingness to be on the border with your pain and negative feelings;
- and most importantly, it is responsibility for your choice. We do not want to take it, because if something goes wrong, then we will have no one to blame … only ourselves.
And how do we often do:
- we are speeding up in terms of decision making. It seems to us that the choice is a "heavy burden" and we want to throw it off as soon as possible, thereby running away from feelings and emotions (often traumatic for us).
- we share our thoughts and feelings with friends, expecting their acceptance, help and advice, partially shifting the responsibility for making decisions.
In my opinion, the recommendations below can be useful:
- it takes time to make a decision. It is important to think, analyze and understand your situation. And if we do not give ourselves time, then decisions can be impulsive and thoughtless;
- relying on your own feelings can help. Stay alone for a while, with your feelings and emotions. Only this should be based not on momentary emotions (joy, anger, fear, etc.), but on deep feelings that live in each of us. This will help you realize what is important and meaningful to you;
- when making decisions, try to slow down and think positively, do not put pressure on yourself. Don't force yourself to make a decision. Do not rush yourself and allow yourself in a relaxed state to take a closer look at the situation, think it over, realize;
- you may have doubts. They arise if a decision is made under pressure (internal or external). If the decision is hard-won and matured internally, then doubts and regrets do not arise. Well, if you still hesitate, then there is an inner fuss and a desire to find the "right" solution and do it as soon as possible. In this state, any choice will be wrong. Such a decision will always be followed by a train of doubts;
- in any choice, in any decision, you, one way or another, are forced to give up something. There is something important and valuable that needs to be sacrificed when choosing this or that alternative. You should be prepared for this. In order to survive the victim less traumatically, you need to approach it with the knowledge of what exactly you are losing. When you clearly understand what you are giving up, then it is easier for you to experience the consequences of making such a decision;
- do not be afraid to take responsibility for your actions, since this is your life and it is about you;
- Remember: there are no right or wrong decisions! What you do or choose "here and now" is important and meaningful to you at this moment in time. Do not be afraid to make mistakes - this is an experience, your experience!
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