How To Find The Meaning Of Life After 30 Years?

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Man, from birth, is a gullible creature and extremely suggestible in childhood. But over the years it goes away. And at some point, somewhere in the period between 30 and 40 years (although someone earlier, someone later, and someone never at all) there comes a moment when you realize that all that you are used to be perceived as goals, as something of importance and value, is nothing more than a banal "razvodilov" to facilitate external management. Or you don't understand, but you feel - like an inner emptiness, like dissatisfaction, like being lost, like confusion, like a loss of meaning and orientation in life. The essence is the same.

If interest has disappeared in everything and nothing pleases in life

This is a signal that it's time to seriously grow up. Normally, a healthy, developed person ALWAYS knows what he wants from life and what he is really interested in doing.

If you are not interested in anything and nothing pleases you, then it means that you have reached the point where you can no longer lie to yourself. Or it gets harder and harder. What to do? Start learning to be honest with yourself. And, first of all, to recognize as an objective fact that everything that you previously believed in, that you considered an unshakable truth, correct and true, is nothing more than an illusion and inadequate reality of a shiza.

You were inspired and you believed that the main thing is to get a higher education, and then everything in life will work out by itself. This turned out not to be the case.

You were inspired and you believed that the main thing is to get a job where they pay well, make a career there and happily work up to retirement, taking a car on credit and an apartment on a mortgage. Reality soon showed that money cannot make you happy, and "financial bondage" and the fear of losing a stable income made you a slave.

The result of lying to yourself and believing in illusions, and it’s scary not to believe in them, because then you have to REALLY, and not cool to change, turned your life into a boring and gray dull existence, where energy, that is, vitality, is sucked out by unconscious internal conflicts like a vacuum cleaner … There will be no miracle. Ahead is an unhappy sick old age and an awareness of the profanity of life prospects.

Can everything be changed? It only depends on you.

How to start living anew

“It's very easy to start living again! I did it every Monday and every new year! - this is the motto of the modern infantile personality. This is really inspiring. The realization that you can. You just need to choose a suitable Monday, or even better, wait for next year. Then I'll show you!

This is childishly naive, but a very strong lie. It helps to delay the moment of making a decision, while providing yourself with a reliable alibi. “Well, I don’t refuse, I’m sure on Monday!”. But Monday comes and all of a sudden all sorts of important matters and circumstances come to light, all sorts of moments and nuances that, well, do not allow to start as planned. Therefore, it is better to postpone. Until next Monday. And this is how “Monday, which will never come” appears.

What to do?

In addition to the obvious solution (there is an awareness of the problem - I go to a specialist and start work), there is a way for the lazy or timid. Just start journaling. And it’s a habit to read it at least once a week. Write about your goals, your desires, your fears, what you did to change your life and what you want to do. The more you write and read more often, the faster you will come to an unpleasant realization of where and what you are lying to yourself.

If you do not stop after this and continue to write your diary, write honestly and frankly, then consider that half of the work has already been done by you. Then the next step is transformation.

What is the purpose of my life

From the point of view of genes, a person under 30 must fulfill his program - create a biological copy (preferably more than one) and begin to retreat into another world. The entire structure of the body is "sharpened" for this task. That is, after 30, a person's life DOES NOT HAVE biological meaning. But it has another.

A classic mistake made by many people who read the instructions for “finding the meaning of life in 30 minutes” is trying to set goals for themselves based on, so to speak, “the current version of yourself”. Or, in other words, try to build your home on the shabby foundation of false values, social myths, schizo, fashion trends, other people's ideas and all sorts of restrictive prescriptions.

Any goal set in this way will be a goal set "from the mind" and will not "connect" with the energy of internal motivation. This means that there will be no desire to do something to achieve such a goal. This is at its best.

In the worst case, the goal can be set as overcompensation. When real or imagined flaws ("wrong" nationality, origin or social status) are compensated by active neurotic activity that depletes the body. A person rushes forward, towards some formally important, but not having a serious purpose, solely out of anger, rage or hatred. Gets the result and dies of cardiovascular disease. Or gets depressed.

The main sign of “your goal” is that it resonates with the inner energy. This can manifest itself in a feeling of deep love. Or delight. Or awareness of the beauty, strength and greatness of what was conceived. It is not important, it is important that a person feels complete unity between the goal and himself.

Such a goal cannot be invented. She can only, as they say, "give birth", having caught her vibrations at an ideal, spiritual level. There are no clear-cut algorithms that give the expected result, and there cannot be. Algorithms are needed by robots and managers. The question of finding your goal, your meaning in life is a very subtle and very deep question that requires going through certain iterations for cutting and polishing. It can be compared to the creative process of creating a painting or sculpture, when a picture is created from a gray canvas, and a holistic image is created from a rough piece of stone.

Re-flashing consciousness

The main obstacle on the way to finding the meaning of your life is the person himself. More precisely, his current "firmware" (aka "picture of the world") in his head and, generated by personal infantilism, lies to himself in order to ensure the integrity and safety of this inadequate "picture of the world."

Practice shows that independent overcoming of this obstacle is possible only in a state of deep personal crisis and an extreme life situation, when you want or not want to, and you have to open your eyes and begin to see what you simply did not see point-blank before. To see about life, about people, about love, friendship and, most importantly, about oneself in the present.

The question is that there are no volunteers to voluntarily experience the horror of concentration camps, the severity of life hardships or the complete collapse of all life prospects. And you need to find the meaning, otherwise the process of internal entropy will deprive you of energy and turn it into a boring and decrepit ruin.

Another option is to use a "mirror". Yes Yes exactly. Only his role is played by another person, helping to direct attention wherever you think of in life and would not dare to direct it. This is how insights, insights, epiphanies and all that jazz are born. This helps us, through the jungle of lies and windbreaks of delusion, to reach the pure source of truth. The truth about yourself. About life. About people. About the meanings.

This is the process of reflashing consciousness. Feel like you need it? Do you feel that the current processes in your unconscious create only problems and not solutions? You want to find the meaning of life and start living anew. Sign up for a free consultation. I'll see how I can help you.