10 Illusions That Protect From Reality And Take Life

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Few things in this life can be as pleasantly intoxicating as illusions. Illusions protect. Illusions give the feeling that everything is good (in itself, very resourceful, by the way) - moreover, even where it doesn't smell good. Illusions allow you to relax and allow yourself to just be. Illusions allow you not to decide what you do not want to decide, and not to look at what hurts.

Such an anesthesia. Pain reliever. Intoxication.

Illusions are dear to man, and yet illusions are very dear.

I picked up my favorite illusions - some of them were for me, some I saw for others.

10 illusions and my comments to them.

1. "So I will go through this training again, and then I will definitely start to change something in my life." (Well, yes, after the training it will somehow get up off the couch by itself and start doing it by itself. The main thing is to go through the training.
2. "Here I am lying on the couch, but as soon as I find my Business of Life, this is where I will show myself." (Well, yes, as in the first point.)

3. “There are people for whom everything is very easy and simple, so I will not do anything yet, but I will lie on the couch and wait for everything to become easy and simple for me”. (Well, yes, there are such people. And they either went a certain way to make everything easy and simple, or from the outside you can see only a piece of the strategy, and you can't see the whole strategy).
4. "Here everything is bad for me, I will start a relationship, and everything will be just super for me." (No, it will not. All the same conditions and any internal problems that were before the relationship, will be in the relationship. Some moments will even aggravate, and new ones will emerge.)
5. "I have not had a relationship for 5 years (or all the relationships that were, ended very badly), but the next ones will be the same." (Most likely they won't. If there is no relationship for a long time, then there are reasons for this. If the relationship is destructive or ends badly, then there are some problems. You need to work with them.)
6. "He loves me, and his wife will soon leave." (And then you can remain in an incomprehensible relationship, but you do not need to look at the reasons for what brought you into this relationship. Usually they are very unsightly.)

7. "Mom only wants the best for me." (Parents very often, wishing their child "good", in fact mean that "good", which is "good" in their understanding, and which is beneficial to them. In general, parents often manipulate their children - not everything, but it happens.)
8. "So I will definitely never be like my mother (father)." (Yes, of course, this is exactly what you will be. Because the patterns of behavior learned in childhood are very tenacious. Especially tenacious are those of them that are strenuously denied (this is "definitely not me" or I am "definitely not like that"). Unless you specifically work on this, of course.)
9. “So I’ll lose weight and start meeting men (I’ll get married, get a promotion at work, love myself).” (Weight often serves as a scapegoat, an excuse for not making important decisions, or not looking at what you don’t want. There is no direct connection. It may be indirect. Or it may not. relationship or self-dislike can be completely different.)

10. “Somewhere in the world there is definitely a person who knows exactly what and how to do in order to be successful, rich, happy, etc.” (No, he does not know. Yes, certain strategies of other people can be useful. But in general, each person is unique, and everyone's path is also unique. And such an illusion can speak of falling into a childish position - it seems to a small child that there are adults, which everyone knows and can.)

What illusions have you noticed for yourself or others? Write in the comments.