2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Now the world is changing so quickly that you don't even have time to blink an eye. It would seem that not so long ago I picked up my first mobile phone, and now everyone is with smartphones, Pokemon are running around the streets and the age of virtual reality is coming. As in a fairy tale, straight.
The requirements for a person are also changing: requirements in the mental context (30 years ago, did anyone even imagine what streams of information each of us would have to pass through themselves every day?), Physical (what to do with sores that arise as a result of constant sitting at the computer, it seems that it is not yet clear), and emotional, of course.
At the same time, emotions, psychological trauma, emotional reactions - everything remained, it did not go anywhere. And you need to work with this. That's just to work many times and times faster than, for example, 50 years ago.
What can be done to work on yourself faster
For myself, I have identified two key skills that help you work on yourself as quickly and efficiently as possible.
The first is the ability to track the trigger of your states, both pleasant and unpleasant. In general, most of a person's emotional problems and experiences arise due to the fact that some unconscious reaction (often unwanted) has occurred, and the person then either repents or shoots out the consequences of his unconscious reaction.
So that's it. If you keep track of what triggers a particular reaction (for example, anger, a state of despondency, apathy), what is behind it, what caused it and what is impossible without - it is highly likely that the next time this reaction tries to start, you you can stop her. It may be such that it will no longer start.
It is both simple and difficult at the same time. When a certain state covers me, at what moment do I notice it? What happens inside me the moment I notice it? A minute before that?
Situation triggers are different. For example, a person is annoyed with an employee who speaks loudly on the phone, and the trigger for anger may not even be the volume of the voice, but the timbre or tone of voice, or the name of the employee, or a memory in which a person similar to her appears. That is, an employee with her loud voice may not be in business at all, although all the discontent will go to her.
This is the first skill - the ability to track what, when and how triggers a particular state, emotion, reaction in me.
The second skill, a bit like the first, is learning to understand who or what my feelings belong to.
For example, there is a person who causes me a state of fear. I'm afraid of him, this man. My task in this case is to analyze whether I had a similar feeling of fear in the past, and if so, when and with whom. It is possible that I am not at all afraid of the person who makes me feel fear now. Perhaps what I fear is far in the past, and refers to events that have not been there for a long time.
The second skill, among other things, is also an important component of relationships with people. When you understand where your feelings come from, there are fewer conflicts, it is easier to communicate, and even more pleasant, which is already there.
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