2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Family and clan transmit moral principles, behavioral patterns, coping strategies, career choices, as well as debts, unresolved conflicts, secrets, diseases, irrational fears and premature deaths to a person.
First, each person during his life must deal with the "skeletons" and "ghosts" that he inherits, and for this it is necessary to know and respect the history of his kind, whatever it may be.
At almost every moment in time, any of us makes one or another choice in life, commits an act, manifests his will, thus creating a personal story.
However, the fate of a person is not only influenced by his personal choice, it also depends on the influence of the family and clan.
Family and clan transmit moral principles, behavioral patterns, coping strategies, career choices, as well as debts, unresolved conflicts, secrets, diseases, irrational fears and premature deaths to a person.
Thus, information about any dramatic events that occurred in the life of one of the family members and the whole family as a whole is transmitted by the family. It can even be information about events of a historical scale: wars, catastrophes, experienced violence, repressions, genocide.
Such transmission is called transgenerational and occurs from directly from the unconscious ancestors to the unconscious descendants through the morphogenetic field. L. Sheldrake believed that anything can become images of the morphogenetic field: information, feeling, behavior model. Moreover, such fields exist not only in humans, but also in animals, plants, and even crystals.
Also, along with the information from the ancestors to the descendants, the post-traumatic syndrome that arose as a result of these events passes: “the descendant is affected by what the wound meant for the parent.” (M. Terek, N. Abraham) We can say that transgenerational transmission is the embodiment of the concept of family (generic) karma.
Who belongs to the members of the family (clan)? According to B. Hellinger, these are:
- children, incl. adopted or deceased;
- parents, their brothers and sisters, incl. combined or extramarital;
- grandparents, sometimes up to 5-7 knees;
- not relatives or integrated into the system (those who gave up their place: for example, former marriage or extramarital partners of parents, grandparents, or whose participation brought material benefits to members of the clan: nannies, wet-nurses, guardians, donors, etc., as well as victims of violence and murder committed by family members).
Why is transgenerational transmission happening?
For example, in Soviet times, the history of the family was often embellished, on the one hand, and on the other hand, some unsightly facts were hushed up, and with them, shame and fears of arrests, pogroms, black funnels, exile and camps, and other social grievances and injustices. … In other words, if the ancestors conceal some important, sometimes unpleasant or shocking information, then it will certainly find its addressee, and it will be one of the descendants. F. Dolto believes that "everything that is hushed up in the first generation, the second carries in his body."
In the history of many families, in this way, "skeletons in the closet" and other "ghosts" are stored and inherited. It is important to understand that as long as this archaic order remains unconscious, it remains valid.
Another reason for transgenerational transmission is the desire of family members and clans to compensate for gains and losses, or, more simply, to restore justice through the clan conscience.
"This means that what is acquired at someone else's expense is paid for by its own losses, and this is compensation." B. Hellinger
When it comes to criminals, or people who served as executioners during Nazi Germany, or in the NKVD of Soviet times, then (as a rule) not they themselves pay for their atrocities, but their descendants. Children, grandchildren, and even great-grandchildren of criminals are highly suicidal. In this way, the family system restores justice to the victims.
Is it possible to abolish the law of transgenerational transmission and is it necessary?
There are two points to consider here. First, each person during his life must deal with the "skeletons" and "ghosts" that he inherits, and for this it is necessary to know and respect the history of his kind, whatever it may be.
The basis for the study of information received from ancestors can be the construction of a genealogical (family) tree, as well as the arrangement of the family system. The family constellation method can be both group and individual, and shows how much we are intertwined with the destinies of other people, which sometimes we do not even suspect.
Secondly, you need to pay off the debts of your ancestors (if any), but not in a bad way, through self-punishment, but in a good way, through the establishment of order combined with love. This means that it is necessary to take such actions that will be healing for all members of the family system and will help eliminate the "karmic" influence of the family conscience.
What actions can these be? For example, early deaths (or victims) do not need literal redemption from us; they need recognition and respect. Bowing is an expression of respect. Also, as a sign of recognition and respect for the dead, unfairly offended or forgotten, you can do something good on the material level (for example, participation in charity, etc.).
The tribal conscience never sleeps and is more ancient, and therefore a priority "authority". It arose even before a person could stand out from the clan as a person in order to follow his own path in life. The clan conscience is the highest authority that protects the integrity of the clan (clans), and therefore is a talisman for the entire society. We must remember and honor the ancestors. Every person living now needs to think about what he received as a gift from his family and clan, and what he will pass on to his descendants so that this gift does not become "fatal."
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