2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Psychosomatics of one stuttering
A 23-year-old client turned to me for help - to psychologically work out the problem of her stuttering. While the girl was answering the questions, I noticed the following: she pronounces a part of the text (rather long in time and complex in linguistics) without any difficulty, but in point, separate places the speech starts to "stumble". Difficulties do not occur with specific sounds or in some given algorithm, but spontaneously, unpredictably … The first impression is the following: when the client is carried away by the message and, as it were, moves away from the position of the real “I”, the problem “leaves” her as soon as the girl approaches herself -real, the problem will inevitably "return" … That is, the psychosomatic nature of this appeal - "on the face".
Working process
- Elina, let's imagine the image of your stuttering on the chair opposite you. Have you presented? Okay … Now, sit on this chair and imagine yourself in this image. Now you are not Elina, you are Elina's stutter.
- Good…
- How do you look? What are you like?
- Into a tangled ball of thread …
- So … Where do you live? In what part of Elina's body?
- In her larynx …
- I see … And at what period of time did you appear in Elina's body?
- When Elina was 3 … Perhaps 3 and a bit … Something like this …
- OK, thanks! Elina, please sit down on your chair. Now you are you. Tell me, do you also feel that the problem started around this time?
- Yes. Exactly. My parents and I talked about it …
- I understood you. Tell me, do you remember something extraordinary connected with that period of your life that, perhaps, “started” this problem?
- No, I don’t remember anything extraordinary … (Thinking …) Unless … The very first memory of that period … I am in the kindergarten. The end of the day… It's already late enough… All the kids were taken away, but I’m gone… The nanny calls their parents… For a long time no one follows me… I am alone and alone… It is getting dark… Finally, the father comes. Very drunk. Barely able to stand on his feet. I'm disgusted, I'm afraid of something. But I am returning home with a drunken dad … Mom is at home. Also drunk … Literally "sprawled" on the table … She sleeps … There are bottles around … That's all I remember …
- Elina, did your parents drink?
- Yes. But don't think: they didn't always drink - only on weekends, they started on Friday, finished on Sunday evening, on the other days they were sober and worked a lot - normal parents, like everyone else …
- But, judging by your recollection, you strongly interfered with them, especially on those free days? They should forget about their daughter, relax, rest … They would "turn off" you for a while. And you - alive, demanded attention …
- Yes, probably…
- But you, of course, loved them very, very much?
- Of course! How else?…
- And you were sorry, right?
- And I regretted …
- And, accordingly, did you want to somehow help out mom and dad? Unconsciously … How could they?! …
- I dont know…
- But now I'm just sure of this: you “turned off” yourself as best you could, at the behest of your parents, so as not to interfere with your beloved dad and mom … by their unspoken instructions it was not worth it to APPEAR, PAY ATTENTION TO YOURSELF, SPEAK … Especially on certain days …
Sighs … Thinks …
- But that's not all … In addition to the ban imposed, your tangle, I think, includes an unlived scream of indignation in relation to the circumstances then lived. The cry of the soul stuck in your throat in a tangled, heavy ball. Elinochka, dear, you must “shout out” your indignation, allow him to break free. Please stand up and try to shout it (you can silently, with an inner scream, or out loud - whatever happens). Repeat after me, loudly, in full force: “Mom and Dad are from the past, you can't do that! It's just monstrous! I-three-year-old was abandoned by you - lonely! I am scared and hurt! I couldn't handle it then! You forbade me to LIVE! But I'm ALIVE AND WILL BE (HEAR ?!) WILL LIVE! I'M RETURNING THE RIGHT TO VOTE!NOW AND FOREVER! I CAN AND WILL BE FREELY, SURE TO SPEAK!YES SAID WILL BE FULFILLED! YES IT BE EXACTLY THIS! Now imagine how, along with your screams, your inner ball flies out of the larynx, like a cork from a bottle of champagne, and bounces off you forever …
Modest Elina, at my insistent request, repeated this many times. Standing. In a virtual reference to the past. With amplification, forcing the voice. Every next time more and more confident. With my warm support. Paired with me. Elina told me that she seemed to have heard the symbolic "smack" of the flying ball. Next, we did a short but effective psychological practice that endows a person with powerful confidence, mental resource, inner positiveness and strength.
- Elina, remember, your problem sat on this chair some time ago. Try to sit here again. Do you feel this problem? Is she still here?
- No. She's gone now. Definitely and to the point. But she was the same as before. And you know, perhaps, she can still return again … But now she is not! I don't even feel her spirit - absolutely!
- Good! Transfer to your seat. You are you! How are you feeling?
- Very well! I'm calm. I don't feel a ball inside … (Smiles.)
For some time Elina answered questions, said something, told. And believe it or not - until the very end of the session, she no longer stuttered. Of course, Elina and I will meet again to consolidate the obtained result, but it is important that the psychosomatic sources of the client's problem have been found and, in general, are well neutralized. This is how it is easy to get to the roots of psychosomatics and ensure their successful elimination - in cases where difficult psychology interferes with the physiology of the body …
… To strengthen the described results in the next two sessions, a large separation practice is supposed to separate the adult part of the client's personality from negative parental prescriptions: “Shut up!”; "Do not say!"; "Turn off!"
Brief Description of the Specified Practice
A chair is placed opposite the client, on which the subpersonality of his parent is supposedly located. The client alternately transfers from chair to chair, being in active dialogue with the parent. The dialogue is carried out in the following phases.
- Reacting accumulated feelings. (In shifts, from each role.)
- An alternating expression of sincere forgiveness from parent to child, from child to parent.
- Alternating expressions of gratitude from parent to child, from child to parent.
- Alternating blessing: from the parental role in relation to the child and from the child - in relation to the parent.
- Virtual separation from the parent. At the level of representation, we separate ourselves from the parent figure by imagining the division of the common road into two separate paths …
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