2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
With the advent of watsappa, our life has changed. We began to discuss issues in groups, something that was previously possible only at parent-teacher meetings two or three times a year.
The Internet has greatly changed our lives, now we instantly learn about an incident on the other hemisphere of the Earth, and more often from a passer-by's video, and not from official news. We can learn everything instantly, first-hand; we can share and discuss it.
Openness, mobility, speed of information transfer and the possibility of discussion have greatly changed this world. It is more and more difficult to keep something under the floor.
A class is a small state. With his "head" - the class teacher and "boyars" - members of the parent committee. But it so happens that the "boyars" seize power and try to rule the state themselves
In my daughter's class, 6 teachers have changed in 5 years. The dynamics are such that, leaving the classroom leadership, teachers changed schools. What happened in past years, I can only guess now - I had neither the strength nor the time to delve into all this.
But now either time has appeared, or the eye has already become more focused, certain actions on the part of the parent committee alerted me, and I decided to drip deeper … What I pulled to the surface, I was very surprised.
On the eve of the New Year, parents began to actively discuss gifts from the class, each offered his own - snow balls, glowing snowmen, books. Traditional sweet gifts were banned by the school administration. Therefore, the parents began to rack their brains, sharing in the group those who had found what in the open spaces of the boarding school and in local warehouses and shops, simultaneously creating a good-natured New Year's mood for themselves.
The head of the parent committee said: “Ok. We will see."
A few days later I received a mailing list: “We decided to give New Year's gifts to children. This is a secret. No need to tell others. No comments needed. Simply yes or no. Amazing, right? It looks like a game. Why so secretly, secretly? What kind of gifts? How much is? Who are “we”?
- It costs so much. Gift such and such.
- Why can't you discuss it with anyone?
- Because you can't please everyone.
How.
The head of the parent committee, an adult woman with two children, has made decisions on her own throughout her school years, demanding only via SMS, and now via whatsapp a “yes or no” answer. “Is it right for you or not? If not, goodbye. " The very idea of discussing something among all the parents did not warm her at all. In her words - "She is a man of action."
Therefore, my statement to the general group on the topic: "Shouldn't we discuss this?" “Why can't we discuss New Year's gifts and choose the best option?” - was immediately stopped. “All that is required of you is yes or no. Why are you planting a bazaar here? " Some parents were alarmed: "In general, what questions should be answered" yes or no "? What are we discussing?"
“I don’t need trouble” - the formidable head of the parent committee wrote to me in a personal message and expelled me from the general official parent group.
The Tsars on the Russian Land did not interweave.
We and I in particular were lucky - the teacher created her own group, becoming its administrator. Power in the classroom returned to its rightful hands.
While all this was happening with my expulsion from the parent group, several parents wrote to me with support and told me about the bullying in private messages.
The strategy of our parent committee, represented by the imperious lady empress and a couple of henchmen, was to communicate with each of the parents alone, only through private messages. But in no way prevent public discussions in the general group. So that everyone has the feeling that something is wrong with him, everyone agrees, but he does not. This is how the collection of money, the purchase of gifts, the approval of decisions were carried out.
“What do you care about others ?! Say yes or no. Nothing else is required of you.
This is such a totalitarian system of government in a single state. Does it remind you of anything?
A class is a small state. And as in any state, at least ours, the majority of citizens do not care. And in fact, there are those who decide that this is "our patrimony." And if the teacher, the class teacher fades into the background, then chaos begins to happen in the class
It can take place under the guidance of a teacher and with his tacit consent. But the teacher is part of the system. There is always a learner above him, a school director, a department of education, a ministry of education. In this case, it is clear what to do and who to go to. There is always a trust in the teacher. But if the “boyars” seize power, then the only option is to restore the legitimate power - the power of the teacher, if it doesn't work out - to change the class / school.
To the class where my friend’s child goes, the parent committee methodically carries out “cleaning the ranks” - expels the “wrong” children from the class. Her child is next.
Legalization of what is happening (bullying, aggression, extortion, secret games and intrigues), turning all this into the light of day - gives an amazing effect. Like vampires in the sunlight, it all hisses and melts. At first it hisses, exudes a stench, but it melts anyway.
These are amazing times. With the emergence of various groups - parental, kindergarten, professional - we had to communicate, we had a need to discuss various issues. Perhaps your "yes or no" is enough for you. Indeed, not everything requires inclusion and detailed discussion.
But in general, we now have the opportunity to discuss, share our opinion and vision of the situation. Yes, we are different, it's true. We have to reckon with this, we have to learn to hear each other and DO-GO-WA-RI-VAT-SYA.
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