2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
There was a woman and she had a daughter whom she could not get enough of. The daughter was very meek and did not dare to refuse her mother anything. If she showed dissatisfaction with something, then after that she felt guilt towards her mother and tried in every possible way to atone for it.
The woman was very pleased with her daughter, she now knew exactly who would give her a glass of water in her old age. And she shared this with other people, telling that her daughter would stay with her until the end of her days. That the daughter is absolutely not interested in relationships with other people, and even more so with men. Even when the daughter met with someone, then she still broke up and was very worried about the end of the relationship. And the woman, in turn, spoke and reminded of her warning that everything would end this way. That if her daughter listened, everything would be fine. That the world is dangerous and the daughter is better off staying with her. Mom is always right, with which the daughter ultimately agreed.
This woman had a friend who envied her. Her children scattered from the parental nest and built their cozy nests. A friend's husband plunged headlong into his scientific research, and she was left alone, experiencing loneliness. Sometimes the children brought their grandchildren to visit, which delighted the woman, and she was happy at these moments. And here a friend has a daughter next to her and is not going to either move out from her or get married, but all the time with her. About which the woman at any convenient moment always boasted about her situation - that her daughter was clever, she would never leave her to be sick and die alone, she said, glancing towards her daughter. And the daughter just sat by the window in her room and thought about something. Sometimes answering: "Yes, mom", "You are right, mom …"
Once a guest from Africa came to the husband of this woman's friend. His business trip was associated with joint scientific activities. When they met, the woman immediately began to talk about her daughter, who loves her mother very much and is not going to leave her for the sake of her own life! After all, her life is a mother! The guest listened and was surprised, not understanding how this could be? In his homeland, children at a certain moment are taken away from their mothers and a ritual of initiation of boys into men and girls into women is carried out. And after that they are not the children of their parents. In some places, parents mourn their children as if they had died.
When the guest talked about the initiation, the woman did not want to hear it. For her, it was savagery and barbarism. A friend, on the contrary, was very carried away by this story and remembered how her great-grandmother told something similar. That once something similar happened with them. At first, young people were driven out of their usual life, and then there were trials and a return to the previous environment. Such rituals helped the younger generation to master the basics of male and female destiny and the transition from childhood to adulthood with the subsequent identification of themselves as a man or a woman.
The woman listened to this with surprise and anxiety, and only turning to her daughter, looking at her, she immediately calmed down and rejoiced. She does not care what initiations are taking place somewhere, the most important thing is that she provided herself with the price of her daughter's life a glass of water in her old age. She was pleased with how skillfully she scared her daughter with stories that the world was dangerous. How beautifully did she nurture the feeling of guilt and greatness, informing her daughter that she would die without her, while the daughter did not want her mother to die? How skillfully she devalued all the undertakings of her daughter, informing her that her daughter would be lost without her. How she subtly noticed the accidental mistakes of her daughter in order to convince her once again that it is better for her to stay near her mother and hold her hand.
And what about the daughter? She still sat by the window and did not pretend that she was tired of the agonizing state of desire for a free life (with broken knees, stained clothes, salted food, breakable dishes and a fork falling out of her hand, relationships with men and the rest of the set of what now passes by). With all her being, she wanted to soar in the sky of her life, but the little girl inside her was very much afraid that something would happen to her mother, and she would not be there at that moment, and then all the blame would fall on her, and there would be no one to forgive …
So torn between guilt and her desires, she looked up into the sky and waited for her mother to die in order to fly … And then she was seized by a feeling of guilt for such thoughts and she was in a hurry to do something for her mother. Mom once told her that she knew what she was thinking and saw right through her … So it's better not to deceive mom …
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