7 Questions That Will Lead Men To Clean Water

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

It turns out that we just don't know what we want. The standard description of the ideal man looks like a transformer: so that he obeys and does not contradict, and immediately, he knows how to make male decisions, perform male actions. He's Gosha, he's Zhora, he's Yura.

It turns out that a man is in the mood: if you want romance, it will be romantic; I want someone to be responsible - he will be businesslike. Well, if you want extreme, the man will immediately sign you up to the nearest extreme club. As in a fairy tale: at the behest of the pike, at my will.

But this is just a fairy tale. But in life everything is different.

The client was waiting for an answer to her question. And the question was ambiguous: tell me what I want and who I need.

The answer to the question came when I tried to move away from a specific situation and look at it through the eyes of an ordinary spectator.

So. Given: man and woman. Condition: the couple meets to create a love relationship and subsequently a family. The question is: how can a woman understand that next to her is exactly the man with whom you can create a family and give birth to children from him?

In cases like this, when my clients are faced with the choice of “do or not,” I recommend doing, trying, and choosing.

But here is another case. Here relationships are a delicate topic and you need to carefully approach the decision to create a family. So as not to rack your brains later on where in the sentence “you can't stay” put a comma.

You need to understand that relationships are not only courtship, kisses in the moonlight, gifts and compliments. All this takes place, but in the intervals between the gray days. And in the gray everyday life, a woman is faced with an ordinary life.

There is such a phrase: "The husband is known in the decree." A lighter version of cognition is observing your man in everyday life. This is where you will see the whole perspective of your future relationship.

For an adequate assessment of the situation, I recommend paying attention to the following facts in the behavior of men. After analyzing them, you will understand whether you need it like that.

So.

1. How does a man treat other women?

This is not about you, him or your mom. Observe what he says about his coworkers, the wives of his friends, the women he knows. What kind of reviews are they: respectful or dismissive? What does he think about the role of a woman in society, about a career in her life, about hobbies and interests. Once the bouquet and candy period is over, you will come across the true attitude of your man towards women. If already now you find mocking and sarcastic comments about women, their abilities, it is likely that, in the not too distant future, you will also become the subject of ridicule.

2. How does a man treat your parents?

Nobody forces him to love your parents and shower them with gifts. Does he respect them? What does he say and how does he relate to meetings with them? When a family is created and children are born, two clans, two families are intertwined. Your parents, one way or another, will appear in your life. And it is very important how your man will meet them on the doorstep. If you already see disrespect towards your parents, you should know that in the future it will be even more pronounced. And in this situation you may find yourself between two fires.

3. Who does he blame for his failures?

Blaming others for your failures speaks of an irresponsible attitude towards a person's life. Well, if a man also blames a woman for his troubles, this is a sign of weakness. Ask him about past relationships, find out why, in his opinion, they did not work out. Who does he blame for their completion? If you hear reproaches and accusations against the former woman, then soon they will also sound your address.

4. How does he feel about money?

Every woman will agree with the fact that there is nothing worse than a greedy man next to her. Pay attention to this right away. Otherwise, then it will be painfully ashamed to explain to the curmudgeon why you need new jeans if you already have one. And even if you yourself make good money and you do not need to ask, his greed will still prevent you from enjoying the relationship. Every time you will hear that you cannot afford it, that you can do it and there is no need to spend extra funds. Money is the energy that we receive as a result for our work and should easily part with it, repaying others for their work. Lightness does not mean frivolity. This means without regret and without unnecessary attachments to material wealth. And if it is a pity to part with money, then the flow of energy is blocked, and then, indeed, money is earned with great difficulty.

If a man wastes money left and right, then this is also not a good sign. This behavior leads to debt and credit in the family. Everything needs balance.

5. How much does he respect your opinion?

The phrase "shut up, woman, your day is March 8" - is it not about your chosen one? A happy family is a space for self-realization. And self-realization is possible only in society. If you constantly close your mouth and consider your opinion as something insignificant, you will gradually wither away in this relationship. Even if everything goes well in other aspects of life. Conflicts in a couple are an opportunity to speak out, to outline the boundaries of your inner world, an opportunity to change some moments in yourself, to go beyond your narrow understanding of the situation. And if you are not given the opportunity to express your opinion, this is a direct path to internal conflicts. This is how low self-esteem is formed. Pay attention immediately how much your man is interested in your opinion. Or his motto: "I will always decide everything myself, on the simple basis that I am a man." Sounds beautiful from the lips of the hero of the film. In real life, this is a disaster.

6. What is he like in everyday matters?

You don't have to go far here. It is enough to come to his house and everything will become clear. Who cleans his house, who prepares the food? Does he himself or mom come to the rescue? Or is creative clutter his way of life? Find out if this is due to his busyness or if he is already comfortable. Now think about who will be responsible for all the household issues already in your family with him? If you are ready for this, then there are no questions, this fact can be ignored by you. But then don't complain when you say something like “me and a horse, me and a bull, me and a woman and a man” about yourself. Eyes saw what they chose.

7. Are you ready to help in difficult times?

This will manifest itself in the willingness to provide even small services. Family life is not a quiet haven, but a big trip around the world. And if now a man finds all sorts of excuses for your requests for help, then from whom do you ask her in the future? A man's love is expressed in three forms: he publicly claims his rights over you, he protects and provides. If he really loves, then the madness of the lover has no boundaries. He is ready to spend his last money on you, help in difficult times and break into a cake to provide you with what you need. Pay attention to your man's behavior in this matter.

So, only by looking at your chosen one from the side, you can decide how close he is to the ideal.

And do not delude yourself into thinking that thanks to your wisdom and cunning, you will be able to remake a man and smooth out all the roughness that is already visible.

Men, and indeed women, cannot be remade. Women's wisdom and patience can help him show his best qualities towards you.

"Close honest relationship - the best, if not the only, opportunity to truly understand yourself, explore your nature, go beyond your limited point of view on the world around you. But for this it is necessary to understand that relationships are not entertainment or consolation for a suffering soul. Relationships are risky ventures that can make us stronger, or weaken us to the point of being incapacitated. And we can choose in which direction to move - to become stronger and more mature, or to defend in a relationship our right to weakness and infantilism."

James. F. T.

I wish you good luck finding your ideal.

With faith in you

Tatiana Sarapina

Smart women trainer