2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
All girls and women have heard about how severe the consequences of abortion can be for their health. Sometimes these consequences happen, and sometimes they don't, and this gives many girls a reason to think like this: okay, maybe nothing will happen. It is clear that this can be a big mistake … But we will not talk more about health - there is one more side of the issue.
Our psyche is designed in such a way that it protects us from too difficult events. This is what is called - the mechanisms of psychological defense. They are different, but their essence is in one thing - to reduce the intensity of unbearable experiences.
Each girl experiences the situation of an unplanned pregnancy in her own way. If she feels that she does not want to give birth to this child (for any reason), then these are very difficult thoughts in any case. Living with them to their fullest is almost unbearable. After all, each of us has a conscience, there is an idea of ourselves as a good person. Thinking about a planned termination of pregnancy jeopardizes positive self-esteem. And the mechanisms of protection are used: "this is not a person yet", "everyone is doing abortions, and nothing", "if there was money / housing / work, then I would give birth …", "life is like that" and everything like that … Calming the conscience with logical arguments is a natural process. This makes it easier to get over the whole situation. But the following happens: by striving for an abortion and justifying it, the girl reduces the value of the child in her own eyes, tries to distance herself from him, not to become attached to him, not to perceive him as an already existing person. This helps her feel less guilt and get over an unpleasant event faster.
After the abortion has already been performed, the girl is haunted by unpleasant thoughts and feelings for a long time, mainly guilt. If these feelings were openly experienced, cried out, if the girl openly regrets what happened, then over time she gets better. But it is very difficult to endure, and most often girls try to drive away unpleasant emotions from themselves. They succeed, but the emotions themselves (and with them the defense mechanisms) do not disappear anywhere.
And this will play a role when the girl wants and is going to give birth to her child. After deliberately rejecting a previous unborn child, it is difficult to bestow great value on the current child. After the last child was not considered a human being, it is very difficult from the very childhood to begin to consider the current baby as a human being. But this is one of the necessary conditions for education.
As a result, when a girl who previously had an abortion has a child, it is difficult for her to build the right attitude towards him, it is difficult to raise him correctly, even if he was desired and planned. An invisible barrier may remain between them, created for the sake of protection from unpleasant experiences during abortion. So it turns out that not only the girl herself pays for the decision to have an abortion, and not only the child who was not born, but also the one who is born next.
Thus, abortion not only becomes a psychological trauma for the woman herself, but also complicates her contact with her unborn child. It is more difficult for her to become a mother after once she has already convinced herself not to become one.
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