2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Tolerance is the path to peace
I am often asked how I manage to maintain warm relations with people of different views and political persuasions. Do I really agree with everyone or do not see real things, am I really not angry and do not feel pain for what is happening?
Of course, I experience different feelings, but I do not take them out on the people with whom I communicate, but I add to the communication the joy of a meeting or a telephone conversation, sincere experience and care and the right to my opinion, my view of reality, even if it seems to me another. The principle of “OKness” by Eric Berna helps me in this, where a person accepting another person sees in him the same “good person” that he is, and he himself.
"You and I are of the same blood" - sounded in my favorite childhood cartoon "Mowgli". For me, this has always been a key phrase, the meaning of which is simple and clear: I am a person - and you are a person, I am good - and you are good, we are just different. Yes, each of us sees the world in his own way, and has every right to do so.
In this article, I want to tell you about tolerance and how to learn to be a tolerant person, because I believe that everyone is capable of it
Tolerance - myth and reality
Many people confuse tolerance with slavish obsequiousness, with silence and a passive attitude to what is happening
But, a tolerant person actively participates in the processes that take place in and around the country, advocates for human rights and does not support the destruction of human values.
A tolerant person is open and benevolent to the opinion of other people, and knows how, without aggression and devaluation, to express his point of view.
According to the philosophical encyclopedic dictionary, the concept of "tolerance" is deciphered as "tolerance for a different kind of views, morals, habits. Tolerance is necessary in relation to the characteristics of different peoples, nations and religions. It is a sign of self-confidence and awareness of the reliability of their own positions, a sign of an ideological current open to all, which is not afraid of comparison with other points of view and does not avoid spiritual competition "(Wikipedia)
Tolerance-intolerance
A tolerant person knows himself, his pluses and minuses, learns to accept different qualities and character traits in himself, knows how to analyze himself, his actions. She is not afraid to study herself and knows how to separate herself from the group
An intolerant or intolerant person, in contrast to a tolerant person, does not know himself, does not engage in self-knowledge of himself, does not learn to discover new sides in himself and accept them, but writes off everything to his character and circumstances. He does not know how to separate himself from the group and always looks for those responsible for his troubles, and also has a negative attitude towards everyone who has a different opinion, i.e. different from his group to which he belongs.
A tolerant person knows and understands that the events that happen to him in his life depend primarily on himself - on his personal qualities, competence, purposefulness, etc. And also, such a person is aware of what he carries into the surrounding world, it also returns to it, i.e. are a natural consequence of his actions
An intolerant person feels a constant threat from the social environment, “everyone wants to cheat, cheat”. Very often he is rocked through life as in a storm, then he deifies someone, then he immediately overthrows himself, then he rises to heaven in his delight, then falls down, severely devalues everything done for him by the people around him.
A person who is tolerant of other people does not depend in his judgments on the nationality, religious affiliation, race of another person, but perceives his opinion, proceeding from his values and universal human norms.
A tolerant person is primarily focused on his activities, work, creativity and often brings creativity and a new look at familiar things.
Intolerant - completely depends on the opinion of the group and its actions, and is prone to extreme manifestations of aggression and negativism - rage, hatred, chauvinism.
Tolerant people are prone to order, moreover, to order in all manifestations in life, which is expressed both in a polite attitude towards people and towards their neatness. In contrast to them, intolerant people like to shout about order, over-emphasizing their commitment to it, but, unfortunately, they often do not have order either in the house or in the soul.
A person who is inclined to worry about another, understand the feelings of other people and provide them with emotional support, and at the same time has the ability to objectively evaluate events and other people, is tolerant.
The imposition of their beliefs, the desire to dominate others, tough banter and trolling are inherent in intolerant people.
A tolerant person respects the rights and freedoms of another person, supports democracy and advocates adequate legislation.
And, of course, one of the most attractive qualities of a tolerant person is humor, which allows you to relieve tension, it is not offensive to laugh at yourself and witty, and most importantly, to constructively reveal what you do not really want to look at.
The first step is the most difficult …
Of course, it is not easy to take and immediately become a tolerant person, but you can take the first step towards this amazing quality through knowing yourself.
Allow yourself to be different, use not an evaluative look, but a study, with interest at other people.
"I can see you," Neytiri said. “And I see you,” Jack Sally echoed after a while. (their movie "Avatar")
I wish you to SEE other people …
Yes, we are different … And that's great!
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