YOU AND I OF THE SAME BLOOD Or The Strength Of The Family

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

A lot of people come to me with similar problems: “I don’t feel the connection with my parents”, “I don’t have the strength to live”, “The power of the family does not feed me”. I can say with confidence that each person should be given energy for life by the force of the race. And to get the power itself, you need to have a connection with the clan. That is why in the past centuries, the procedure for blessing the parents of their children was adopted. And also there was a natural respect for the elders, and, of course, gratitude to the parents. No wonder it was said: "Honor your parents." Thanks to these simple truths, the energy and strength of the race was not wasted, but accumulated.

When I was doing my personal therapy, I had the task of building my own family tree. This exercise is used by psychologists of different directions. It is necessary not only to draw cells with dates, but to remember, find out, research who is who, what they did, what traits are inherent in this or that relative. I was pleasantly surprised at how much in common I have with my ancestors, there really were psychological roots. Much became clear in myself. It was an exciting journey to my family!

Now, when I give such a task to my clients, I have added a little, modified it. When writing down, describing your relatives, be sure to add numbers, count your statuses and roles and your attitude to this fact. The fact is that psychologists have proven that numbers make people's ideas more specific and therefore more significant. This is how news and advertising work, for example.

Compare the two messages:

"Many people died as a result of the fire!" and

"The fire killed 46 people!"

A lot is a relative concept, but 46 people, specific people immediately appear and how much grief there is.

Or another example:

"You will feel better after just one use" or

"Use this cream and you will feel better."

Sounds more convincing where there is the word "single". This means that it acts quickly and efficiently. Do you agree?

I share with you a sample of this exercise and my personal roles in my family:

So:

I'm Marina! - 1 time (unique, unique and unrepeatable)

I am a granddaughter! - 4 times (yes, I had two grandfathers and two grandmothers, and although they are no longer alive, I still proudly wear this title)

Me, daughter! - 2 times (thank God, that I am still a daughter! After all, as long as our parents are alive, we remain children. This is happiness!)

I, my own sister! - 1 time (the only one, I hope, the more valuable)

I am a cousin! - 11 times (cousins, they are just as close, loved and dear)

Me, dear aunt! - 2 times (so far twice, but who knows, life is long)

I, dear niece! - 8 times (being my own aunt herself, these relatives have a special status for me. These are the relatives of my parents. And hence mine)

I am a cousin! - 23 times (numbers grow exponentially, it surprises, inspires and pleases)

I am the aunt of the grand-nephews! - 12 times (and this is already an age status! Honestly, I am not even familiar with some of them yet. Because they appear like mushrooms after rain)

I, Godmother! - 1 time (for me this is the strongest, most important and spiritual degree of kinship. I appreciate, love, coast and I am proud of this status!)

Me, mom - 0 times (It's sad, but I'll never become a grandmother!)

When you look at these numbers, you understand how great it is to be a unit of a whole genus. There is a sense of strength, unity, energy, resource … Pay attention to the polar numbers, 0 and 1 are as impressive as 23 and 30 … listen to yourself, how do you feel when voicing these numbers? Each of the members of the genus is like a honeycomb cell in a bee family. It should always be filled with nutritious honey mass to provide nourishment for the entire genus. The honeycomb should not be broken, broken and destroyed, since the survival of the bee colony depends on good communication with each other. Also, the life of every person in the family depends on the correct connection of the members of the clan.

The more relatives you have and keep in touch with them, the stronger, healthier, more integral, wiser, kinder, more humane you are, in my opinion. Of course, there are different circumstances in life, and a person can be completely alone, but that's another story….