2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
We often talk about success when we think about professional achievements, career growth and finance. Nowadays, social networks form a nervous state in the zone of external success (more and more successful than me - someone has a better car, someone has a bigger house, etc.), and we begin to fixate on this. Undoubtedly, within the framework of society and the unspoken financial criteria of well-being and success in life, we pay attention to cars, houses, beautiful accessories (as they say, they are greeted by clothes). Some pay more attention, others less, but in both cases it causes nervousness and an oppressive sensation inside a person's consciousness (“Here he wears a roller, which means he is more successful in life!”). Conventionally, evaluating a person's appearance, we automatically lower our level of self-esteem. However, you should never compare yourself with other people! When you compare yourself to someone else, you fall into the success zone.
Each of us has many successes in life, the main thing is to find them, but drawing a parallel between yourself and someone, you seem to level all your achievements, pushing them away from yourself (now your successes do not concern you, but in reality it is important to be able to appropriate your success). For some, success consists of an inner feeling. Sometimes quite successful people do not drive expensive cars, do not have three-story mansions and villas in Mallorca, but live quite modestly, but at the same time believe that they have achieved success in life. Note that it is these people who achieve a state of spiritual harmony - both external and internal. This does not mean at all that a person eats up the last piece of bread, but at the same time feels happy, not having wealth. If you know what you want to get and move towards your goal, you will feel successful both at the beginning of your professional path and in the middle (in this case, your path will be indicated by a sense of success, wealth and harmony).
William James, American psychologist and philosopher, said: "Success is self-esteem multiplied by the level of one's own aspirations and ambitions." This formula perfectly reflects the movement of a successful person - I go to what I want, what I strive for, satisfy my ambitions, but at the same time continue to respect myself. What is self-esteem? You don't turn towards other people who have something better. If you keep turning around, there will always be someone cooler, and there will be a back in front that will hurt you. In this case, this is not the path to success, but the path to neurosis!
Enjoy your inner path, find it, sort out your own desires and move along this road, enjoying the beautiful views. In real life, this is not always wonderful, there will be difficulties, pain, refusals, not everything will turn out right away as you want. However, if the path you have chosen is really yours, at a deep, existential level, you will enjoy even the fact that somewhere you did not manage to do what you wanted. A person moving towards his goal is burning with the desire to get up and go further, to correct mistakes. This is the inner success, the most important, necessary and life-affirming.
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