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World renowned psychiatrist Dr. Mark Golston on the habits that happy couples have, and by the way, if you decide to adopt them, don't forget about habit number 7! Dr. Mark Golston is an internationally renowned psychiatrist and author of several best-selling books. In addition, he is also an active blogger. And his article "10 habits of happy couples" has already been read by more than half a million people from all over the world
It doesn't matter what the state of your relationship is - you will still be interested to read about what habits Dr. Galston considers important so that the magic of love between you and your significant other will never end.
1. Try to get to bed at the same time
Think back to the beginning of your relationship, when you couldn't wait for the moment when you are together in the same bed to finally make love. Happy couples resist the temptation to go to bed at different times. They go to bed at the same time, even if then one of the partners is quiet gets up to do business without disturbing the sleep of a loved one.
2. Find common interests
After the raging fire of initial passion fades away, replaced by an even flame of love, many couples find that they don't really have much in common. However, don't underestimate the importance of what you can do (and enjoy) together. And even if you don't have many interests in common, you may well find something that will appeal to both of you (if, of course, you want to be a happy couple). And do not forget about your own interests and hobbies - this way you will not only become more interesting for your partner, but also make you look less dependent on him.
3. If you go somewhere together - hold hands or walk beside
When a happy couple is walking somewhere, it does not happen with them that one of the partners walks behind the other or runs in front - no, they walk holding hands, or at least next to each other. They know that the desire to be close to each other is much more important than the desire to come somewhere first.
4. Make trust your regular routine
If (more precisely, when) you quarrel or quarrel, know that happy couples are happy because they are ready to trust each other and forgive each other together in order to cultivate distrust and anger in themselves.
5. Try to think more about what your partner is doing right and less about what he is doing wrong
If you only look for flaws in your partner, you can trust me - you will find them in abundance. But in the same way, you can find good in it. It all depends on what exactly you are looking for. Happy couples are in a positive mood.
6. Hug each other, meeting each other in the evening after work
Our skin has a memory for “good touch” (love), “bad touch” (violence) and “no touch” (neglect). And when you say hello or say goodbye to your "soul mate", accompanying it with hugs, you literally plunge into "good touches" - and they, in turn, help us to endure any adversity.
7. Say to each other "I love you" and "Have a nice day" every morning /
This is a great way to recharge in the morning with a good charge of tolerance and good mood, with which you can go to fight traffic jams, long queues, and other unpleasant phenomena.
8. Say goodnight to each other every night - no matter how sincerely you do it
It tells your partner that no matter how offended you are with him or her, you still care about your relationship and want to continue. This suggests that what is happening between you is much more and more important than one single unpleasant incident.
9. Remember to ask each other how you are doing
Remember to call your partner at home or work from time to time to see how their day is going. This is a great way to know in advance what to expect from him or her when you meet in the evening. For example, if your partner's day was simply awful, you can hardly expect him to genuinely enjoy your cloudless day.
10. Be glad to be seen together
Happy couples do not hesitate to show themselves to people together, moreover, they enjoy being seen during any kind of emotional contact, whether it be an ordinary touch on the arm or shoulder, or a passionate kiss. And they are not at all trying to shock others with this - they just want to show that they belong to each other, and are happy with it.
The habits of happy couples are very different from those of unhappy couples, but what is a habit? It is a certain pattern of behavior that you follow automatically and that does not require much effort on your part to maintain. For a behavior to become a habit, it must be repeated for at least 21 days - and if you adopt the behaviors described in this article, they will certainly make your personal relationships much healthier and happier. And remember - if you can't do it the first time, don't despair. Just apologize to your partner, ask them for forgiveness, and keep working on good habits.
If there were some key to happiness in love and ordinary life, as well as success, then part of it would certainly be the following: in a conversation with people, listen more than you speak, be more interested than try to interest, and admire more than delight.
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