2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
The problem (one of) our society is that we are not telling the truth. Moreover, we do not want to see her, stubbornly pretending that the problem is not a problem at all. Or that in other societies / countries it is “even worse” or “and nothing, they live somehow”, which is perhaps no less detrimental to the process. This is the same problem for each individual professional community
And this is not at all a question of the tolerance of one individual to the characteristics of another. This is a quality issue as well. Responsibility for choice - to oneself. We do not really want to go under the knife to an inept surgeon, whose hands can only be high-quality salt, at the same time we do practically nothing to avoid this. Because "be as it will be" is sewn into the system of our consciousness.
Of course, everyone is different. But the fact is (and this is important) that the level of professionalism / ethics and other things have nothing to do with this. You can be as kind-hearted as you like, Zinaida Vitalievna, 68 years old, and bake excellent fragrant pies, but at the same time hold the scalpel with a trembling hand and still carry out operations. I do not know a person who, in his right mind, would be ready to undergo surgery for such a Zinaida Vitalievna. Moreover, everyone who is at least in the least serious about their own health and the presence of all internal organs in the body will do everything to avoid this fateful meeting on the operating table.
Why does such a small percentage tell the teacher Elizaveta Sergeevna that calling the child a "moron" and making fun of him in front of the whole class is not pedagogical at all? Why does no one go en masse to the director of the institute and announce that Olga Nikolaevna does not really know English grammar at all, but has such an incredible amount of horror pronunciation that students speak better than she?
We call unacceptable things normal or peculiarities of a particular individual. We refuse to see controversy when a person living under a bridge and having arranged a house in a box lectures on how to make the first million without having such experience before.
We say "thank you" to the smiling doctor for improving the shine of the hair by prescribing drugs that depleted the liver and kidneys, because he "did at least something."
And I thought: why? Maybe it's the fear of being in the same position one day and the fear of not enduring such a truth thrown in your face? Or hope for the same glance through your fingers, in the event of a total failure? Or maybe this is the hope that under the current circumstances, it will be possible to do their job just as poorly and no one else will indicate this, allowing you to avoid such difficult work on yourself and this vile self-improvement?
Everyone has mistakes and this is inevitable. And it's also normal and part of becoming: personality, experience. Although sometimes it is scary and terribly unwilling to recognize them. But still, let's have the courage to call mistakes mistakes and insults insults. Let's teach this to our children. Maybe then it will become a little safer and better to live with us.
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