2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Clients often make similar requests:
- I feel a strong sense of guilt towards …
- I hate …
- I'm very afraid …
To reduce the emotional acuteness, it is worth focusing not on the object to whom the feeling is addressed, but on the feelings themselves, the possibility of their diversity.
You will need paper, a pen, various objects, or plasticine
Stage-1. We rationalize feelings - we revise them
- Decide what negative feelings you would like to let go of.
- Rate your emotional state associated with these feelings on a scale from 0 to 10 points, where 0 is very worried, 10 does not bother at all.
- Get to know what, in principle, feelings are (see table).
- Fill the table.
- The next step can be the ranking of feelings on a scale where those feelings that you experience most often come first, then second, third, etc.
- It is important to understand that the whole gamut of feelings is important and in fact, there are no “good” and “bad” feelings.
- Those feelings that a person never experiences are the main neurotic need.
- Until you release the feelings "locked" by him, he will not get rid of those negative feelings that prevent him from living.
- Search resource: "What could help show these feelings?" For example, find out: "Were these feelings before?", "How did they manifest themselves?" and "When did you stop showing them?"
You often experience
You rarely experience
Never feel
Stage-2. We do an independent arrangement of feelings
- Find in your apartment or office various small objects that fit in the palm of your hand and can "stand" - these can be bottles of glue, perfume or nose drops, candles, statues, stones, etc.
- Designate each object as a "substitute" for one or another feeling
- Arrange (without thinking) "Your Feelings" on your desktop.
- See how your feelings interact with each other?
- Identify the closeness and confrontation of your feelings
- Analyze your observations (better write it down)
Stage-3. Final ritual
- Put your feelings in a circle and pretend they are holding hands.
- In the middle of the circle, place a candle that was not used as a "substitute" - this will be Harmony
- Take out of the circle that feeling that bothered you and throw it away.
conclusions
- Again, rate your condition associated with the feelings that bothered you on a 10-point scale. How has your emotional state changed in comparison with what it was at the beginning of work?
- Did you easily get rid of the object that symbolizes your negative feelings? - This indicates that you are ready for positive change
- Did you feel sorry for throwing the item away? - So we need to work with this further, with the help of a therapist. In any case, hide it away and do not use it.
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