2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Loneliness with a dramatic tinge, there is a sad state of abandonment. It is as if they do not fall into it by their own choice, those who have a "narrow opening" (forgive the metaphor) - acceptance, fall unconsciously
They leave / leave those who cannot allow / allow their neighbor a different worldview or dissent (another way to make decisions and act from other meanings). Those who are abandoned are those who are not able to perceive the other partner as a “curious value”. They leave those who are stingy in recognizing the merits and talents of a person nearby, which is almost the only reason for lonely old age. They leave those who do not accept other interests of the partner, simply endure and are not able to be curious enough in the direction of their companion's worldview and travel to the foundations of other meanings of the person who is nearby.
Such non-recognition and rejection, by and large, is nothing more than Avarice for the Inner Light. Alas, with a man stingy with the Light, nothing living can grow. If a person is not "watered" with acceptance and admiration, then sooner or later, he will find that without a pair he means more than in a pair. Connecting with a patient, but not accepting person does not expand opportunities, but collapses our universe. And the sooner we discover this, the less this connection traumatizes our living energy, the less losses in our own “glow” we will face. It is no coincidence that the people talk about people who are abundant in the Light of Acceptance - “a wide soul” or “a generous soul man”.
Loneliness by one's own choice is fundamentally different. Often the desired state of liberation from the bond that constrains our energy with a non-accepting parent, educator, or partner. A conscious and healing state of asceticism for relationships and connections is often a desired act of growth and separation - a new stage of self-identification.
Loneliness in which a person can hear himself, inventory his meanings and separate his true desires from those imposed by society. This gives such reliability and clarity that many, having tasted conscious Loneliness, are in no hurry to give up this whole and autonomous state. To give up integrity - for the sake of the dubious happiness of being someone's “half”? Giving up a piece of yourself - for the sake of serving someone's expectations?
Only having felt our wholeness in the newly acquired self-worth, we understand that only those relationships that make us freer are valuable.
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