2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
This means that you are responding in kind, but to someone else!
During a consultation today, I came up with a modification of the well-known exercise for working with boundaries by drawing the contours of the body on the floor. As usual, I have deepened and expanded this exercise with my additions.
The consultation took place on Skype, and the client did not have chalk to draw her outlines on the floor or on the wall.
We decided to make do with the means at hand. We minimized the body image and worked with the palm.
Inventory:
sheet of paper and pencil (pen)
Algorithm:
Part 1
- Do you think the drawing is larger or smaller than your hand?
- How similar is the outline of the drawing to the real outline of your hand?
- Are the actual proportions (the ratio of the height to the width of the fingers) respected?
Part 2
- What exactly matched and what did not match?
- How does this relate to your life?
- How often, in fact, do you violate other people's boundaries?
Homework:
husband
I scream when I don't like his action, accusing him
Thank you for what you have done and then calmly explain how you can do it better
Friend
I write to her at night, share my impressions
Wait until morning
Colleague
If I urgently need to sort out something, I call on the weekend
First, write an SMS and ask if she is ready to talk to me and when it is more convenient to do it
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