2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
I'm torn. I'm on the verge of divorce.
(Fragment of real consultation)
"On the one hand, there is no relationship with my husband, but there is a son of 8 years old. He loves and reaches out to his father. I have a feeling of loneliness, dissatisfaction, insecurity. I am angry over trifles. I get tired of frequent quarrels. I degrade as a woman."
On the other hand, I met a man. Feelings arose. Now there is an opportunity to change something. New relationships scare me. How will the son take it? Is it worth the risk? What if everything will happen again or will it be even worse? I want to feel like a full-fledged woman, beloved. I want to give the child the maximum, I'm a mother. I want a reliable person to be around."
- Loneliness, dissatisfaction, insecurity is experienced as imprisonment or "imprisonment". Emotions are hidden inside the body, as in captivity: fear, guilt, shame, thirst for love. They break free: irritation, discontent, anger, aggression. This is how the situation looks from the point of view of psychology.
How to get out of the past relationship, and not step on the same "rake"?
There is no guarantee of happiness and love. If there is no feeling, it is better to part with the past relationship, but do it without regrets, with gratitude. For a son, a father will always be loved if he maintains respect for his husband as a parent. A son's feelings for his father do not depend on parting and distance.
Start working on yourself. Deal with your mom and dad. Look for the reasons for fear, guilt, shame, self-dislike, rejection of past events. You need to go back to realize that there are no guilty ones. If nothing is done, then the "rake" will be repeated.
I personally experienced dissatisfaction in a relationship, although there were no external reasons. My husband loved, but not as much as he wanted. Nagged, demanded, lectured, although he tried. All wrong. I didn’t thank you. I thought that there was nothing. She was offended, silent, angry, walked not happy, could not say a kind word. She suffered herself and made her loved ones suffer.
Women come to me for sessions with similar situations. I can feel their experiences. If you do nothing, then there will be a "rake".
You want to give the maximum to the child, give the maximum to yourself. A happy mom is a happy child.
The method of psychotherapeutic trance (regressive immersion in the memory of the past) will help to free oneself from inner experiences, create the basis for harmonious relationships and love.
Go deep into yourself. Talk to your subconscious. Get answers directly, not from a psychologist. Everything is in you, and I am the guide.
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