Fear Of Competition. Childhood Rival

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

A girl turned to me, let's call her Katya, and she told the following story

“I have such a situation. I want to develop my business, my favorite pastime as a freelancer. I took my first steps and was immediately scared. I have a great fear.

I look at my fears, I track my thoughts and emotions. You could call it an impostor complex.

• "You are unworthy"
• "You will not make it",
• "Where are you going?"
• "This is not yours".

And so I want to remove this fear, the fear that I will not succeed."

We agreed to investigate the situation in the constellation.

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Shapes in the arrangement

• Katya in the context of the topic (fear that it will not work)
• Substitute for the cause of fear

In the first image the constellation was an unborn twin, whose presence caused extreme discomfort for Katya's deputy.

Solution. Katya took the twin to his ancestors and said: "Brother. I see you. You have your destiny. I have yours. You failed to be born. I did it. I will not repeat your failure in my life. I leave you to your fate. I leave you. your scenario is a failure to you and your time. I will never confuse you with myself and with anyone else. I will never confuse you with my projects."

In the second image, a situation from childhood, a biographical experience, an emotionally intense comparison with someone is not in their favor.

Additional information from Katya: “My parents divorced when I was 8 years old, and my dad got along with a woman who had a girl from her first marriage, also Katya, my age. the feeling that I was replaced, my dad doesn't need me anymore."

We put two pieces in the alignment:

• Katya is eight years old,
• Another girl Katya
• Dad

Katya entered the alignment and said to both girls:

Another Kate: "You have Katya your mom and dad, and I have mine."

Your part of the personality (little Katya): The fact that dad lives now with another woman, he has not ceased to be your father because of this. He just lives with another woman. Another Katya cannot be a substitute for you, never. She is not your dad's daughter. He always loved and loves like daughter only you.

Here is your daddy, he is yours forever. The fact that he and his mother could not be together is their business, this is their relationship, this is their adult business. This is not your fault. You are a good girl. You're cool. You are smart, beautiful, beloved. And daddy loves you. And mom loves you. I play with you, fiddle around, carry with me everywhere. Dad is always your father. In this sense, your dad is always with you.

I am Katya from the present time, I am adult and strong. I will always help you. I'll even braid your braids."

Body reinforcement: Katya connected with little Katya: "This is my place. This is my life. I claim my rights right now."

Result

• Dad has a lot of warmth for his daughter. Dad is resourceful. Dad is resourceful. Very good contact with dad.
• No competitors are scary. Because if dad loves, then everything will be all right. I see a purpose, but I do not see obstacles.

Instead of a conclusion

So, the fear of going out into society with your brainchild (project, favorite business) turned out to be associated with two factors:

• solidarity with a failed twin (he was not born)
• rejection of father's support due to childhood grievances (consequences of parental divorce)

After working out these systemic reasons, Katya's health improved markedly.

We wish her success in her business

The thunderstorm died down, kneading the tired branches, You enjoy the light of a clear day.

You remember with a smile the blooming hands of your neighbor

You look good-naturedly at the fruits and flowers at home.

You grow and bloom, and bring your fruits to people

You spread the autumn carpet to the travelers of leaves.

They fly away or take you away from your clothes -

It is a symbol of the path - renewal always and in everything.

Roots tenaciously embraced the space, Combining spirit and flesh by yourself, Earthly Simple Law of Impermanence

I helped you overcome doubts, And to know everything without a frame, without limits

Feel, comprehend the Universe.

The world is beautiful, everything in the world is harmonious, And man was born to create

Born to love and rejoice in the light

The soul was born to ring a bell, Make the whole planet a blooming garden

And celebrate like a holiday every day.