2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Very often clients expect miracles from me. How else? Why am I still needed then? Explain the obvious? Miracles, of course, happen, but I have nothing to do with it - these are your miracles. And you do them completely yourself. I just help you to meet with yourself, to hear yourself, to establish a dialogue with yourself. Choose a road and go along it, doing simple concrete things along the way that for some reason did not work out before. Sometimes it happens quickly, sometimes it takes a lot of time and the tools are very different, but one exercise is almost always suitable.
I am
This is how I simply call the exercise that I give to almost all of my clients. It takes a couple of minutes, and if you do it regularly (at least three times a day, you can do more) works wonders. It teaches us to "be" so accustomed to "doing", teaches us to be with ourselves, so tuned in to the opinions of others, teaches us to catch our own thoughts, without continuously clogging the airwaves with the Internet, telephone, books, work …
You can meet yourself anywhere. On the bus, in the car, in the park, at work, when no one pulls you, but even in the toilet.
1. Listen to your physical sensations at the moment, connect with your body, put it on for real. I am! It’s my feet on the floor in comfortable (uncomfortable shoes), it’s grumbles in my stomach, and my chest heaves with every breath, it’s my head so well sits on my shoulders and it’s my face that the air from the window touches.
2. Listen to your feelings. How are you feeling now? Right now! Take a snapshot of yourself. I feel joy, or anxiety, or vague anxiety, or gloating, or calmness, curiosity, anticipation of something new. I am! At first, feelings may seem vague and incomprehensible … Training in this matter is our everything. You learn to catch these colorful fish and determine who they really are.
3. Now let's listen to thoughts. What am I thinking now? What's running through my head? Just sit and listen. Thoughts will stop rushing around, they will float in a stately stream and then you can read: I want my presentation to be successful, I haven't called my mother for a long time, what a strange mushroom we found yesterday, but it really doesn't suit me, I need to buy vacation tickets … whether thoughts. It's just a screenshot of what's going on in your head. Reminder - I am!
You do not evaluate anything, do not change, do not try to do anything about it, you simply connect with yourself, the real, the present, as it is this minute. Take a couple of quiet breaths in and out and move on.
And you have the technology of meeting yourself. Try it!
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