2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Closing your eyes for a second, you can hear the silence in which, as the sages say, there are all the answers to your questions. You are in vain waiting for answers, their path is unknown to anyone, they are reliably hidden in the safest place where you will never think of looking for them - in complete silence and in the complete absence of any sources of answers. Perhaps the quietest place we have is our dreams. Perhaps you remember the phrase of Haruki Murakami “if you don’t understand without words, then you won’t understand with words too,” she is poetically speaking about the same thing, about the silence, in which there are all the answers to your questions.
Why silence? You have precisely captured this intolerable subtlety of the mysteriousness of silence. Because in silence you can definitely hear yourself. Unless, of course, you are afraid of your own voice and again put on headphones with music, and have you ever heard your own voice if you constantly ask others? Such a banal thought can cause quite unusual anger. You will be angry and seething with passionate disgust and bewilderment about "hear yourself in silence." Or maybe you won't, how to know who and how is showing his anger, this is also a question for silence.
Fairy tales described how an echo in a forest or cave answered questions wisely. It may well be if you read the metaphor of the forest and the cave as an image of the unconscious, which, just, speaks to us in ourselves. More answers came in a dream, some even had enough for the Nobel Prize. This also refers to the reality of silence and to its many-sidedness and flexibility in our understanding of it.
You would be right if you ask, "but what about the question itself?" Yes, but what about the question, where does it come from at all and what is it really about, and how is silence connected with the question? Perhaps, if this question is the answer, then it also stems from silence and logically draws our attention (the unconscious draws the attention of consciousness to the "problem") to the source of anxiety. In fact, a question is not a “question” - it is a kind of signal that gives you an answer to a “problem” that has not yet been identified by your consciousness, but which is already persistently knocking on the door of consciousness, breaking your stereotypical defenses along the way. Therefore, asking a question to someone is partly pointless, simply because the respondent has no idea about your inner world and its inhabitants. And do not give yourself up to the illusion that you will ask the other and him. No, my dear, you will not ask about him, not about him at all.
By asking a question, you can very coolly track your own topics for yourself, if, of course, you are interested in it. Of course, ask another - "Why is it so expensive?" you can, but by and large, it is most likely that you will ask yourself about your inferiority, and this may be really important, but alas, not for everyone.
Is silence about presence or absence? If you ask for silence, will you get something from there, or will you just be convinced that there is nothing other than your own answer to the question? Whatever it was, all the same, silence works both in the forest and in the cave, both in meditation and in sleep. Are you going to work with her? Or is this employee frighteningly incomprehensible to you and you cannot keep your anxiety unpacked in the presence of such a silent and incomprehensible subject?
Too many questions as a question topic.
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