2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Any labor or educational collective has its own established and regulated rules, ways of managing people, its own hierarchy.
Bosses, managers are people to whom other members, members of a group, firms, enterprises, organizations are subordinate.
Teenagers have an expression - "don't turn on the boss!" What does this imply? Do not become overly arrogant, arrogant, self-confident, a person with a "bloated ego", do not assert yourself at someone's expense …
Who is the "boss" in this context? A person who has some kind of power over other people. At the same time, he either supports exclusively his own interests, or the interests of his company, being there, too, subordinate to other bosses.
"Give a man power and you will see what he is …" There is such an expression.
Power, after all, is a kind of psychological "drug". Even money is secondary in this case. And the ability to lead, influence and "command" at your own discretion delays and gives a feeling of power, your exclusiveness, increases self-esteem.
In fact, being the boss is, of course, not an easy task for a person.
This is, first of all, responsibility to oneself, to others, to an organization that imposes certain obligations on you that are beneficial to it.
It is important here not to become a "familiar" in the team, trying to please everyone. But it is also necessary to maintain a certain psychological distance so that, nevertheless, the difference in statuses between the subordinate and the leader can be felt.
"Boss" is a kind of facade, a social role, behind which there is always a living person. With its own characteristics, inner world, needs and desires.
In the event that the boss has pronounced psychopathic personality traits or is immensely narcissistic, then the members of his team have a particularly difficult time.
The boss sets the order, the psychological climate in the team. He can "play off" people among themselves, guided by the principle of "divide - and rule".
He can single out some of his subordinates, bring them closer to himself, and make others “scapegoats”. Dumping their mental negativity on them, overloading them with work beyond measure. Using them as a functional to satisfy exclusively your needs, to be biased towards someone …
There is even such a phenomenon called "bossing". This is when the boss, disliking his subordinate for something, begins to humiliate and suppress him in every possible way psychologically.
In such a "game" the forces are very unequal. And the subordinate, most likely, if no compromise options are found, will have to leave, getting rid of the power of a “tyrant” and a psychologically unbalanced boss.
Moreover, other members of the team will support their boss. After all, they are afraid to "fall out of favor" towards him and also "fall under the distribution." And simply they do not want to lose their jobs, their source of material income.
Why might your boss not like you?
Yes, for anything! “The palm was wet when squeezed,” the marital status was not “ideal”, the age was not the same, the appearance was not pretty, the opinions did not appeal …
Yes, especially if the subordinate has his own opinion, which is sharply different from the judgment of the boss. And in general, if it is, then the boss can be very annoyed.
For this introduces an imbalance in the system. It makes you see some other reality, and this is annoying.
And, if everything is already “rolled out and adjusted” in the system, then bothering yourself with innovations is energetically costly. Therefore, they quickly get rid of "dissidents" so that it is discouraging …
A person, especially if he has a family, is in a sense dependent on work. This is a certain material income, access to society, communication, personal and professional growth.
Work is important for a person, to be sure.
And its deprivation can entail a certain internal conflict and discomfort.
It is scary to become unemployed. Remaining "out of work" is like an outcast, threatens with social isolation, material disadvantages …
This can be very frightening and unsettling for any member of any work team.
Therefore, subordinates often have to endure the actually boorish attitude of their boss.
Basically, the psychological climate in the team is determined by the boss or "bosses" standing over him.
"Nothing is as contagious to subordinates as the laughter of their boss …"
If the service relationship is, in general, transparent, there are almost no “behind-the-scenes intrigues” or they are not given importance, there is a healthy climate between colleagues, then the work will bring satisfaction and the efficiency of the work process in the enterprise will progress.
If the philosophy of the enterprise has an exclusively mercantile character, and people in it are used as "cogs", then it is quite possible that painful processes will arise in the organization. And she, gradually, will begin to "rot" and regress.
A person who has fallen into "disgrace" and who is faced with bossing about himself can experience various kinds of internal acute experiences. And if the situation does not change in some way for the better, then he may develop psychosomatic disorders in the body, his mood will be colored by a depressive background.
The fear of losing a job, material wealth, and perhaps its professional achievements fetters and does not give the opportunity to "see the light at the end of the tunnel.."
Suppressing himself and enduring endless humiliation, a person does not see a way out and is afraid to take steps towards new opportunities in his life.
But work is not the whole life, but only a part of it.
And bosses have limits in their power. Especially when you leave them far behind …
If you "dive", so to speak, into psychoanalytic depths, then it will turn out, in a sense, that dialogue and contact with the boss is built up and is somewhat similar to a relationship with one of your parents.
A parent for a child is authority, power, strength, power. The child largely depends on the "mood" and preferences of the parents. Or one of them.
If separation issues in relations with the parent are not resolved, then the adult will enter into parent-child relationships with an authoritative and powerful figure every time. Be it: a boss at work, a teacher in the educational team.
And the relationship will not be built in a "respectful tone", and the boss will be endowed with parental authority and a lot of psychological power, above all. And always be in a relationship - "above" …
In the same case, when an adult at one time safely separated from his parents and lives his own independent life, then he will be able to constructively resolve all the difficult moments that arise in relations with the boss.
Otherwise, he will tolerate the "tricks" of the boss, unconsciously projecting his parent-child relationship onto him.
And the mentally unbalanced chief, in turn, will come into play, acting out his roles and projections … He is, after all, a living person and nothing human is alien to him.
In any case, you need to think, first of all, about your psychological comfort. And what do you spend precious time of your life on, interacting and participating in certain social roles and games.
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