Changes During Therapy

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

In the end, any successful therapy ends up in the same way: the client changes. Of course, these are not those magical changes pleasing to the eye, when at the end of therapy your personal unicorn appears in the home stall, and during morning coffee the birds start singing in unison in the trees. No literal wings behind your back. Not a single seedy super-ability. But they are felt by the skin, like the sun that came out after a long winter

Reactions change. And what used to be meaningful, like air, ceases to be. Not because the therapy is bad and makes you part with this meaningful. And because in the process of work, new horizons open up, other laws of physics are recognized and the old magic stops working.

Priorities are changing. And the desires, needs and feelings of the client himself come to the fore, and not thousands of important and significant people around him. Where there used to be a ton of guilt for "wasted" time walking to the sea (because a lot of useful things could be done around the house), now there is the joy of this walk and the opportunity to be alone with oneself. Where he lived and actively pressed on his brains with shame for the desire to relax, until every job was completed, the ability to let go and the realization of his own not omnipotence settled. And it makes it easier to breathe.

Appearance is changing. For example, in place of a girl constantly fighting overweight, accustomed to scolding herself for every glance towards dumplings with sour cream, a slim girl with mischievous eyes appears, who shamelessly crushes two fresh cinnamon rolls for morning coffee. Because she no longer needs to hide behind excess weight and she can afford to accept her own weaknesses.

Someone from a shy, modest, rather even downtrodden girl becomes a relaxed and permissive woman in scarlet pumps matching lipstick. Because at last he can look at himself from the outside and not only notice, but also recognize his own - attractiveness.

Relationships with some of the closest are changing. Where before it was necessary to run home to your parents every night, because they will divorce if you don’t reconcile them, now there is an understanding of responsibility - for your choice, and not the choice of your parents. Then an empty chair appears at the dining table for three, which is empty and cold. Then resentment and a feeling of rejection from the independent and separated life of the child sit on him, which has to be filled with his own meanings. And this is not easy..

Where a husband could previously assert himself with a clear conscience through caustic and caustic remarks to his wife, who was sure that she deserved it in full, an awareness of his own worth appears. Where he begins to lose control over her life, anger and rage appears, which colors everything in brighter tones, making changes in relationships inevitable.