2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
As far as I know, in the minds of ordinary people, far from psychology, there is a certain image of a person who turns to a psychologist. This is a weak, weak-willed whiner, a loser who does not have his own opinion with a bunch of complexes, who himself does not know how to solve his problems. An unattractive picture, isn't it? And, frankly, in this description I do not recognize my clients or my colleagues who also go to personal therapy.
So who is he - the psychologist's mysterious client? Here is my collective imagebased on personal experience.
Brave people come to the psychologist. Those who, firstly, were able to admit to themselves that they were at a dead end, having tried all the ways to solve the problem known to them, and secondly, they risked telling a stranger about it. This already deserves a lot of respect.
Strong people come to the psychologist. Sometimes I feel terrified how many difficult and painful events they have overcome, how many problems they coped with, often without any support from others. But still they survived! True, at the same time they acquired the conviction that this should always be so, that difficulties must always be overcome alone, without burdening other people with their problems. But at some point, the forces leave them.
Smart people come to a psychologist. Because usually by the time a person appears on the doorstep of a psychologist's office, he shoveled a mountain of literature on his issue, found out what friends and acquaintances think about it, attended hundreds of lectures, and, sometimes, even learned to become a psychologist! In general, in theory, he is very savvy and knows what to do. But here's the trouble - for some reason it doesn't work.
Feeling people come to the psychologist. They notice the nuances of other people's behavior and subtly react to the discrepancy between what the world around them non-verbally broadcasts and what they are told in words. And from this, doubts arise about their own adequacy and normality. If everyone says that the king is in a beautiful dress, and I see him naked, then something is wrong with me?
Strong-willed people come to the psychologist. What they just didn’t achieve with their freedom alone: they can get up early when they want to sleep; can resignedly go for years to an unloved job; can live and take care of a person who cannot be tolerated; can eat for weeks on water and a leaf of lettuce. Only this for some reason does not make them happy.
Personally developed people come to a psychologist. You would know how many trainings of self-development and development of their abilities they went through! And how much do they know about themselves: their temperament, and their accentuations, and their patterns of behavior, and childhood traumas, and much more. And how much time and effort they spend on self-reflection and trying to understand the motivation of others. But this also does not always lead to the desired result.
Steadfast people come to the psychologist. Sometimes they don't even remember when they last complained about life to others. Rather, everyone tells them about their troubles and sorrows. Although sometimes they happen to cry on someone's waistcoat. True, this does not happen often and does not always help. After all, then they, as a rule, shame for a long time and blame themselves for a minute of weakness, and this only makes it worse.
Successful people come to a psychologist. If only because they have the money to spend part of the budget for visiting a psychologist. They have some business. Either study, or work, or family, or a hobby in which they have achieved success. Only often these achievements do not seem significant enough. It seems that everyone is doing something, working, studying, creating a family …
I will stop here.
Perhaps not every person visiting a psychologist possesses all of these qualities, but most certainly most. Even one quality is enough for me to feel respect for such a person. I definitely admire and feel warmth for everyone who asked for psychological help, because this is a very courageous act: open up to another person in moments of their own confusion. And I am glad that helping such people has become my occupation. It makes me happier. Not every person is so lucky to be surrounded by people at work, whom you respect, appreciate and are proud to know them.
All the best to you, successful and potential clients of psychologists! Let everything happen and work out for you. Be happy.
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