2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
A man seeks to find a sexual partner to his liking, and a girl, by some peculiarities of her external presentation, intimate behavior or general biography (if the man already knows something about her), evokes associations with the possibility of achieving a male goal.
Let me emphasize right away: using the term "sexual motive", I am not at all talking about the fact that a man meets a girl, simply striving for sex as such. The thing is that:
In the modern world, a man is no longer looking for just sex,
he is looking for exactly the kind of sex that matches
specifically his personal requests
I ask my readers not to overestimate the role of “just sex” in modern dating and relationships. Sex itself is of interest today only to young men who have no sexual experience at all, or men after a long absence of a partner. For the vast majority of men between the ages of 23 and 50, sex is no longer a problem. And if so, then there is nothing to specifically strive for. In any case, “just sex” is no longer a reason for dating or creating a relationship.
That is why, getting acquainted, modern men are no longer looking for just intimate contact. Especially men who are married, living in a civil marriage, have a stable girlfriend: they already have guaranteed intimacy at home. Moreover, unlike women striving for sexual stability, men usually do not need this very stability, they need variety. (Of course, except when a woman has outstanding sexual abilities). That is why girls who still believe that the very fact of the happened intimacy sharply increases its value in the eyes of a new friend, alas, are deeply mistaken.
Classic sex is not currently strengthening relationships
men and women. Rather, he destroys them
Therefore, I am clearly informing you. Most modern men, taking the initiative to meet women, strive not at all for sex, as such, but specifically for those kinds of it that either a certain man likes or he would like to try them. They are pushed to this by existing girls who do not go to meet their intimate wishes. (Or he hesitates to offer her something due to her modesty or, on the contrary, dominance). In accordance with this, if a girl met not a young virgin, but a fully developed man, her conservatism in the field of intimacy guarantees her a quick loss of the relationship that has arisen, even if there is a lot of "just sex" in them. By the way, this paragraph can help many girls understand why many of their men disappeared from their life horizon, without informing about the reason for their disappearance:
If a man ends a relationship with a woman
without explaining the reason and without expressing your dissatisfaction,
in most cases, this means that she did not suit him in bed
Hence:
The beginning of an intimate relationship often leads
to the end of a love relationship …
Yes exactly. And there is no need to think up and invent anything, look for any other reasons, torment yourself with guesses and acquire a wide variety of complexes. It is important to understand the truth as it is:
If a woman absolutely suits a man in bed,
he will forgive her stupidity, poverty, lack of external data
and an apartment, will find time for it and if he has a family,
and in the most difficult periods of your life
But now, if she does not fit his erotic fantasies, alas: her beauty, intelligence, and money are worthless. All these factors will only delay the inevitable and the man will leave … He will leave, not even trying to remake her, not hoping for it, and therefore not wasting time on explaining the reasons.
What is the moral from this? The moral is that quick sex after dating is a mistake, because if a girl does not have high sexuality, with her intimate ordinariness, she runs the risk of pushing the man away from herself and losing him. Therefore, it is right for ordinary girls to first meet for at least a month without intimacy, after waiting for a certain addiction to a man. And only then, learn to be interesting in bed, and at the same time remember:
Nowadays, man and woman must fit
to each other like a plug to the outlet, not just by having sex,
but according to the compatibility of their sexual characteristics
And the more of these specifics (both she and he like oral or anal sex, watching erotic films together or intimacy in the car, role-playing games, etc.), the more compatible they are with each other, the higher the likelihood that a man will to cherish that particular woman who allowed him to get what he wanted, and so intimately she herself will be happier in the end. If a girl has her own very extravagant intimate "Wishlist", there is no point in hiding them: with a high degree of probability, she will be appreciated for them.
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