2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Some people are so used to the patterns by which they live that sometimes they do not notice how it prevents them from being happy. At the same time, they very tightly hold on to their beliefs (more often negative ones), sometimes the basis of such cliches is their own subjective life experience, or an opinion that is formed in the micro-society. Interestingly, such people literally impose their point of view on others, convincing them of their own peremptory righteousness. This is especially evident when it comes to the relationship between a man and a woman.
This topic will always raise many particular questions, but there is something in common in how you need to approach their solution if the goal is a harmonious and healthy relationship.
One of the most persistent and life-sustaining beliefs regarding the relationship between a man and a woman is that in their course it is considered permissible to demand and expect from a partner or partner some actions aimed at satisfying their own needs. Moreover, this model of behavior is typical for both women and men. In fact, it turns out that, entering into a relationship, a person initially assumes that the partner already owes him, only on the basis that a man and a woman are together. This attitude has a devastating effect on how the dialogue is built in a couple. Because with this approach, one of the partners has to make excuses, and this already implies a sense of guilt and an attempt to manipulate the other. But not everyone agrees to be an object of manipulation.
The next killer belief that for any action one partner simply must be infinitely grateful to the other, and in every possible way strive to do something similar in response or in some other way to express his gratitude. This situation is very similar to the lending process. For some people, often, the expected gratitude should be with percentages, and exceed what was done, otherwise for them all meaning in further actions is lost. Such a sophisticated hypertrophied principle of relationship “I am for you, and you are for me, but more,” cannot lead to the development of a couple. Sooner or later, someone will get tired of being either a bank or a debtor.
Each person lives his own life and, of course, builds relationships himself. It is worth remembering that what is happening between a man and a woman can be compared to a dance that two people dance, balancing and maintaining balance together. It is impossible to do this if you do not give each other support and do not allow to move. In my opinion, the most important thing in a relationship is the ability to give, to give, without expecting anything in return, because in fact love is a desire to do to another as much good and pleasant as possible, just so that he feels happy.
Some beliefs very much interfere with this, and therefore the response of a partner or partner can be completely unpleasant, you can count on reciprocity only on condition of your own sincerity.
Live with joy!
Anton Chernykh.
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