2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
WHAT IS STOPPING YOU TO GO TO THERAPY?
You will be seduced
until you wish to surrender
and become yourself.
Fritz Pearls
Despite the fact that recently people have increasingly begun to resort to psychological help, contacting a psychologist / psychotherapist for many is still a difficult decision, causing a lot of tension and resistance in people with psychological problems.
What most often stops a person with psychological problems from visiting a psychologist?
Each, of course, has its own individual barriers that do not allow crossing the threshold of a psychologist's office, but if we generalize them, we will get a cocktail of fear, shame and lack of awareness, from which certain negative ones are born. attitudes towards therapy
Here are the most popular ones:
- I will be diagnosed there;
- I will be assessed, taught how to live;
- My problem will be unique and unsolvable:
- I learn something terrible, unpleasant, shameful about myself;
Briefly in order:
1. No one will diagnose you. A psychologist, believe me, simply does not need him. The diagnosis is necessary for the doctor to treat the disease. The psychologist will try with you to understand the causes of your problem, considering it as a result of your individual, unique experience of interacting with the world and people who are significant to you. And the experience does not need to be cured. It can be realized, revised, re-experienced, reconstructed. And you can get new experience accompanied by a psychologist.
2. Your life and your ways of interacting with the world are your choice and they are not subject to anyone's assessment, even if this someone is a very smart and authoritative person for you. No one has the right to teach you life and impose their worldview on you. If you do not like them or cause difficulties, inconveniences, give little pleasure, joy, then in psychotherapy you can investigate what is the reason for this and what can be changed here.
3. Most often people are characterized by similar psychological problems: inability to enjoy life, problems in relationships, feelings of loneliness, problems with feelings of intimacy, loss of meaning in life, self-doubt, low self-esteem … These and other psychological problems can and may be solved through therapy …
4. You have known everything terrible, unpleasant, shameful about yourself for a long time. "Good" people once told you about this. And this "knowledge" did not make your life more joyful and happier. In the process of therapy, you, together with your psychologist, will have to reconsider your views on the unacceptable, shameful, rejected parts of yourself, change your attitude to your “negative” qualities, discover in them a hidden resource, potential, accept them into your I-identity and become more holistic, harmonious, stable.
As a rule, all these and possibly some of your other fears will go away already at the first meeting with a psychologist / psychotherapist. And ahead of you there will be amazing meetings with a new self, a new other, a new world that psychotherapy will give you.
Love yourself!
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