Men And Women. What You Need To Know To Survive Together

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

I'll start with the fact that we are completely different and not only in terms of physiology, here I think no one doubts. And we, and here I mean, men and women, are psychologically different as well.

And although today there is an opinion that there is absolutely no difference in the psychology of men and women, I still disagree with them and will try to explain to you why.

I'll start right away with the fact that the facts that I will cite relate to the average men and women, of course there are feminine men who are more feminine and of course there are masculine women who are masculine. But today we will look at the average temperature in the ward.

So what is the difference between men and women?

And I'll start with a joke fact. Who speaks more, men or women? Women, of course.

A woman's need is to say 20 thousand words a day, and men only 7 thousand.

Therefore, if you spend hours talking on the phone with your beloved girlfriend or mom, then this is not a waste of time, but satisfaction of a basic need.

Thinking processes also differ from each other. Men usually think big, having a good orientation in space.

Also, the thoughts of a man are built more accurately and are subject to the general laws of logical thinking. A woman, on the other hand, often thinks completely irrationally from the point of view of logic, relying more on her own feelings and intuition.

And if at the root of a man's thinking is the word "rationality", then in a woman in this place the word "emotionality" is found.

And here very often misunderstandings arise.

If some of you have read the book "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus", there the author cites the fact that it is very important for a man to have his own cave, what is it? What the author had in mind.

This means that it is very important for a man to have the opportunity - to be alone with himself.

If you are upset or upset about something, your relatives, friends, partner, children will most likely know about it. If a man is upset, silence will often be his companion. That is, a man should have a certain “zone of doing nothing,” a comfort zone in which he can rest, overload, tune in to new achievements.

Such a zone is often hunting, fishing, jogging in the morning or in the evenings alone. And this is such a basic need to reboot the male body, it is simply vital for him. Therefore, if your man is going fishing, do not nag him, do not make a scandal, and at the exit you will get a completely happy breadwinner with all the ensuing amenities.

Also, for most men, men's companies are important, these are some places of male power where you can exchange male energy, throw off tension. Football matches, beer pubs, men's clubs - all this is also a must for men.

Another fact is that a man, unlike a woman, is single-tasked.

That is, if a woman can talk on the phone, iron a shirt, watch a TV series, stir up soup and still look after a baby and all this in the same instant, then a man cannot do that, he either watches football or talks to you, he either fixes a computer or helps children with math - there is no third way.

Another interesting difference - have you noticed, now I will ask women who have or had small children, how your child screams like a cut all night, you do not know how to calm him down, and your partner is blissfully sleeping next to him and does not wag his ear. In the morning he gets a scandal, with the fact that he scoffs, that he pretended to be asleep all night, that he does not love you, he is soulless, and so on.

Now I will reveal to you a terrible secret, in which you most likely will not believe, but he really does not scoff, he really slept and did not hear anything.

How? Will you say? How can one fall asleep under such an op?

And here is another difference between a man and a woman - the male ear does not perceive high sounds. The louder the baby cries or the harder you scold, the harder you scream, the more detached your man will become.

Therefore, if you want to convey something important to your man, do not in any way raise your voice, but on the contrary - sit him in front of you (remember, he is single-tasking) and looking into his eyes, in a calm voice, without raising octaves, speak. Only in this way is your monologue doomed to success and you will be heard.

It is also an important detail - the male brain is focused on the result, and the female brain is aimed at the process. And here it is very important to understand what the actual difference is.

Let me give you a few examples, your boss yelled at you at work - you all came home in tears and complain to him that you have offended me, humiliated, insulted me so and so unfairly. What the average man will do is slap on the table and say, so your legs won't be there anymore, quit. All point. And for the man - the problem is solved.

What did you expect - that he would hug you, hug you, regret it, listen. As a result - from you resentment and accusation of callousness and heartlessness, from a man - not understanding at all, but what they wanted from him, he solved the problem, but still everything is not so.

The second example - you want a gift, for example, perfume or earrings or a ring, or a handbag, something that you have already drawn in your fantasies.

You flirtatiously hint to your partner about the gift, without naming what exactly you want, he goes to the store in bewilderment, with the help of a consultant picks up something, comes home gives and ….. not what was in your fantasies. These may be the fantasies of the very seller of the consultant, but not yours.

As a result - tears, resentment, misunderstanding, and from both sides. But the man did what you said - you said buy - bought, and what to buy, this is the third concept.

And all why - because men do not know how to read minds, even if it seems to you that he knows exactly what you need - most likely it will not be so.

Remember the true rule of success - discuss all the nuances of what you want, show a photo of what you want, even better go with your beloved to the store and choose yourself.

Remember, men generally don't understand hints very well. It is important for them to specifically understand what exactly you want. Don't load them with obscure conversations. Specificity is the golden key in a relationship with a man.

What else is important to know in a relationship with a man - it is very important for any man, it is simply vital to make all decisions on his own, or at least consider that he makes them on his own.

If a woman knows how to do it herself, she does everything herself. He won't touch it again. This is the male logic. Once I heard one phrase of Satya Das, which filled me up for a long time: "If a woman put on men's slippers, do not expect a man to take them away, you will continue to walk in these slippers."

No man can stand pressure, control and criticism.

Motivations like "Pull yourself together rag", "You don't earn much", "Look at Petya, Vasya, Kolya, he has a penthouse for a long time, and we live in a one-room Khrushchev", look at "Masha is the fifth mink coat, and I have a five-year-old down jacket", “Irka is in the Maldives every 3 months, and I, at best, once a year on the lake in a tent” - they don't work with men.

The more you motivate him in this way, the worse your relationship will be, and as you know, a holy place is never empty and the deficit will always be filled. This is me about the fact that there will always be someone third, who will begin to praise and rejoice in the lake with a tent and a down jacket and a Khrushchev coat.

Well, in the end, someone will think of a primitive but very effective advice. Never start conversations, requests with a man who is hungry.

Food first, then everything else. No man will ever decide the fate of mankind on an empty stomach.

That's probably all in brief. I wish you a happy relationship, understanding and harmony.