Oncology That Has No Connection With Resentment

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Yes, of course, I attend various conferences, listen to the speeches of colleagues and read books and even articles on the Internet. Yes, of course, we have repeatedly discussed how negative emotions affect our health. Yes, of course, as if the paradigm of the fact that the psychological cause of oncology is considered to be offense has become entrenched in the minds of many for a long time and for a long time. But the fact is that it is not. And when oncologists talk about this, it is easier for us to say “what do they understand in psychosomatics !?” than to figure out what is really happening to a person. In the next article we will talk about the many reasons why this or that person "turns on self-destruction programs." Since at the same time the soul of each patient hurts especially, about something of his own, only he alone understands. But nowhere and never will we be able to single out resentment as a specific pre-oncological feeling.

But how simple and cool it would be to assign any emotion or feeling to be responsible for our health! Then we would get rid of disease once and for all. We would simply take that emotion, work it out with a psychotherapist, if it would be very difficult to change it with the help of medications, affecting the biochemistry of the brain, and voila, no emotion - no disease. But in fact, nothing like this happens, probably precisely because there is no that single reason, that very responsible emotion.

Why is it so easy to tie offense to oncological pathologies?

Because: 1 - it is negative, 2 - there is always a history in everyone (you won't be mistaken), 3 - it seems difficult to overcome and 4 - it always has its own history.

The latter was noticed very accurately, since the event itself was previously called resentment, and not a reaction, and even less a feeling. So, starting to work with psychosomatics, we will always find in a person a negative story associated with resentment, which will be almost impossible to eradicate. How so?

What's really going on?

But in fact, insult in a psychological sense is nothing more than an emotional reaction that arises immediately after this or that frustrating event. We had some ideas and expectations (including about justice, correctness, etc.), but a situation happened that destroyed them (the more significant, the more painful), and there is no way to glue the situation, cancel, turn back, in that while it is difficult to give up your beliefs at that moment.

Or, in other words, when faced with an unexpected unpleasant change in stimulus, the body recognizes the situation as stressful, threatening and releases a large amount of cortisol for early adaptation (fists and lips are compressed, heartbeat increases, breathing becomes confused, etc.). If the "offended" is not depressed and the level of serotonin is in abundance, then melatonin will rush to block cortisol, we will cry and calm down.

In fact, everything that happens next is nothing more than a learned model of a behavioral response to frustrating circumstances. Those. how our parents taught us how to react to problems and cope with them (which is why resentment is often called a learned response). Someone will find another occupation or other opportunity to get what did not work out. Someone might say something like the incantation "I'm a fool myself" or "I'm not a hundred dollars to please everyone," if the resentment situation had to do with personality. Someone will take the situation of resentment into service and with its help will try to evoke a feeling of guilt in the "offender" (who is not the offender in fact, but just a person who did not meet our expectations in this or that issue). And, by the way, offensive manipulators very rarely get sick with psychosomatic diseases. Someone will be stuck in a situation if there is no tool in his arsenal for solving certain life issues.

The fact is that the offense has already taken place and we cannot play it again, since there is no surprise effect, we already know the outcome. It is not for nothing that the event itself was initially considered an offense. We can feel annoyed if something did not work out, frustrated if another person behaved differently than we wanted, anger and irritation if the situation is urgent, etc. in the head until he finds the "antidote".

What does it give us?

Initially, this at least gives an understanding of why, despite the fact that everyone has grievances, not everyone suffers from oncology. Moreover, as I wrote in other notes, very often oncology happens in people whom we could describe as kind, sympathetic, tolerant, etc.

If we are talking about psychotherapy, it is important to understand that, on the one hand, the problem can be hidden where, in a situation of resentment (frustration), there was a lack of serotonin in the body, i.e. depressive disorder. On the other hand, it is important to understand that there is no such feelings "offense", but it is reaction (spontaneous and short-lived) to a frustrating event. Where it is fixed, a person does not have a coping mechanism, there are no elementary social skills, there is a problem of self-perception, rigidity of thinking, a limited set of attitudes, etc. The more different cases the client is frustrated with, the less his arsenal of adequate techniques for coping and interacting with the outside world.

In fact, when we fixate on "forgiveness", we in some sense overflow "from empty to empty", wasting precious time. If the situation of resentment is used as manipulation, this is the path to organ neuroses (sublimation of the need to control the uncontrollable). If the client suppresses anger, fear, etc. (which we revive in the brain, remembering the situation of resentment), this is more likely to manifest itself in diseases of specific organs (although why would there be a disease if there is enough serotonin?). Moreover, if the client did not have a request for "forgiveness of the offense" before meeting with the psychologist, the situation generally turns out to be strange. Confident that resentment is the cause of oncology, we begin to stir up negative memories, the person is angry, anxious, read, produces norepinephrine (after all, the brain reacts to memories just as if the conflict was happening here and now). It, in turn, promotes the development of cancer cells and suppresses the immune system, and joyful cancer cells is in a hurry to develop cytokines that depress the psyche and provoke depression … In general, some kind of unhealthy psychotherapy, as for me.

The most serious problem appears when a person does not control himself, does not fit into his own picture of the world (and situations of resentment cash it out). It was no coincidence that I used the term "self-destruction", since recent studies are increasingly inclined to believe that cancer is genetically inherent in us (see phenoptosis). And in the next article I will tell you what most often psychological mechanisms are found in seriously ill patients (not only in cancer, as I said, there are no specific connections between specific feelings and specific diseases), and I will also try to draw a parallel with the psychological mechanisms of self-destruction - loss or rejection of one's own I. And then it will become clearer why the so-called. We regard "fatal" diseases as a point of personality bifurcation, as a turning point dividing life into the "Before" and "After" states.

Continued