Overcoming Pain, Free From Love Addiction

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Many will think and say: why leave if you love

I'm not talking about emotional decisions that can change later.

The article is more about those cases when all available and inaccessible ways have been applied to change the situation, but the situation and human behavior have not changed.

There can be many reasons for ending a relationship, even with a person for whom there are deep and sincere feelings.

People may not suit each other in life values so much that even over the years of relationships, living together and spending time, they have very little in common. This "slows down" the relationship and gives rise to many claims and insoluble conflicts.

It happens that one of the partners' feelings may cool down, and no matter how hard the other tries to rekindle the "fire of love" again, it does not work. If feelings are of the utmost importance to a loving partner in a relationship, it can be a painful reason for a breakup.

It is possible that there are feelings, but one or both partners are tied by the knot and, due to their inner convictions or willpower, character and responsibility, cannot complete certain relationships, remaining in a chronic situation for too long.

It happens that there is a place for betrayal in a relationship. It is different for everyone, but it means that there is a situation, attitude or behavior of the partner that is unbearable and thus incompatible with the continuation of the relationship.

This series can be continued and concretized, but this is not the main idea of the article.

Ending a relationship when there are feelings is always very painful, unbearable in terms of the strength and range of feelings that arise in this process. Even if a decision is made and, it would seem, there is no way back, there is always a "but".

For example, feelings can and are likely to escalate, no matter what they are (positive or negative), thereby continuing to maintain the relationship that ended.

If negative feelings are greatly exacerbated, this is a good indicator and a helper for maintaining a firm decision, but still not one hundred percent. When anger, rage, irritation, disgust and other feelings subside and "digest", positive, kind and tender feelings and memories can replace. Even those moments that have already been forgotten and never recalled come back to mind.

A dangerous trap lies in wait for you here: it is likely that you will want to return to this wonderful person, with whom so much good is connected. And all the efforts made in the fight against your love addiction can be in vain if you take a step back, not forward - to your emotional freedom.

Cry, shout, talk about how painful and bad you are, how every cell of your being strives back to this important and dearly beloved person! But not to him, but to someone else, also important, valuable, proven - to whom you can open your heart and soul, without fear that they may be treated indelicately, but to someone who is firmer, more decisive and more independent than you in this story. So that this person helps you to nourish your position and determination.

Often such a person is a psychologist, whom you can rely on not only as a person you can trust, but also as a specialist in work with love addiction. But do not limit yourself to communication with a psychologist or psychotherapist, look around, there are people who love you, wish you well and really want to be happy!

Every person in our life has a purpose, it is not always necessary to try to keep it close. Maybe he was given in order to go on after experiencing this pain and renewing himself!