2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Be patient a little more - force yourself, do what you dislike. After all, everyone does that, are you special? Now I boldly say: you can't do this with me!
Only the one who sleeps is not mistaken
We all want to be loved, happy and know that we deserve all the best. And for this they are ready to do anything, even to renounce themselves. From childhood, we are convinced that love must be earned, and in order to earn it, it means that we must give up what we ourselves want. And we carry this stupid idea into adulthood, mistakenly thinking that others will give us happiness. And only with time we understand how dear it cost us trying to be good … I dreamed of being liked by everyone, I lived in order to earn the approval and love of others.
Now I don't want that anymore.
First of all, I want to like myself, to live in peace and harmony with my deepest values. Yes, it’s inconvenient for others - but it’s a reasonable price to pay for the right to be yourself. Once upon a time I wanted to receive gratitude. I did everything for everyone, I was ashamed to say no or take money for it.
How can you?
Now I clearly follow my feelings and respect my own boundaries. Yes, it may be selfish, but I would rather go to a scheduled manicure than do something for someone that he can do himself, he just does not want to raise his butt. There are exceptions here. But they are also conscious. If I do something for someone, it’s not out of fear, but out of love. It's my choice.
Once I thought that it was a shame to live better than others, and if you live a little easier, then definitely your heavy cross and your direct duty to make others happy. Give all the money to the hardest person. Distribute the clothes that I still need myself. Give in to the thing that I like. Don't ask for anything, Refuse what they offer me. In my then wish list, probably 70 percent were about "world peace." Why is that? Subconsciously, I was waiting for compensation from others, the world, God …
I'm so good, I don't ask for anything for myself. So they should give me more than others, because I deserve it.
Now I have the audacity to stop being ashamed of my desires. I voice my true needs to myself and others. If they give me something, I don't feel obligated. I accept. With sincere gratitude.
I'm tired of pretending in front of myself in the first place that everything material is alien to me.
This is wrong. I really want to live beautifully, comfortably, surround myself with wonderful valuable things and not think that it is better to take those products that are at a discount for lunch today.
I'm tired of building a chic facade, and spending enormous efforts on maintaining it. Some people think that my life is perfect - it is not at all so. I am the same living person, I have feelings, much hurts me, I suffer, cry and do not sleep at night.
Once I made excuses for everything that I have in life, I said that I was just lucky.
This is not the case now. Now I know for sure that this is the result of my conscious choice. And only I alone know how much effort I had to make, both external and even more internal, to come to this. I no longer allow myself or anyone else to discount my results. This is my life and I like it just the way it is.
Once I wanted to save everyone, "catch up and make them happy."
Now I understand that change is an uncomfortable and rather painful process and everyone decides for himself whether he is ready for it or not. And no one is obliged to change just so that it would be more comfortable for me, so that I would not be ashamed of my happiness and well-being. If their choice is to continue to be unhappy, I accept it. But for myself, I choose something else.
Once upon a time I had a habit of enduring.
Be patient a little more - force yourself, do what you dislike. After all, everyone does that, are you special? Now I boldly say: you can't do this with me! First of all to myself.
Once I did not give myself the right to make a mistake, to find myself in a stupid, uncomfortable situation, to freeze something wrong, to express my thoughts inappropriately was scary for me. Now I am learning to give myself the right to live such an experience. Only the one who sleeps is not mistaken.
I used to be afraid of breaking up and preferring to keep in touch wherever possible. It was tiring, it took a lot of time and mental strength.
Now I know that it is not so. Now I understand that the key to a happy relationship is respect for each other and for the partner's inner freedom. It’s difficult and scary at the beginning, but it’s more and more beautiful as soon as you release your iron grip. And with surprise you see in your partner not just an extra for your script, but a separate beautiful Personality that develops every day, blossoms and becomes more beautiful and deeper before your eyes.
I once wanted to be right. I believed that the implementation of a certain set of rules is something that will serve as insurance for me against all the troubles and injustices of the world, that nothing bad will happen to me then. Now I understand that this is not the case. There are always lessons and trials in life. And, if you pass them correctly, they turn into my resource.
Once upon a time I wanted to be well assessed, constantly given positive feedback, praised, and given an A. Now I myself am learning to feel and realize my inner value - regardless of external circumstances …
Once upon a time I had a habit of enduring …
Once I believed that in order to be successful, I have to achieve something all the time. Now I prefer to be happy, maintaining a certain state.
Once upon a time I was very concerned about how I look in the eyes of other people. Now I focus on how much I accept and love myself.
Now I want to be alive, a little hysterical, a little "with cockroaches", in some places too active, and in some places - lazy, rude and a little harsh and harsh, sometimes - shiny and admiring myself, sometimes dull and confused …
I want not to seem, but to BE. Every day to be alive, happy and real.
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