Life Without Strength. Where To Get Energy? Four Diagnoses

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

So many people are faced with the fact that there is practically no strength; more and more often they feel empty inside, exhaustion. In their lives, joy, energy, purposefulness are indicated only by short fleeting flashes, instead of which a feeling of injustice, wrongness of what is happening, and even hopelessness settled.

Where can we get the energy that we absolutely need for life, and not just for existence?

1. Diagnosis 1: "You have forgotten about yourself! You have forgotten who you are … Forgot what you need, what YOU personally want …"

Most likely you have a job, business, everyday life, solving various types of issues, planning planning … But you do not have only one item left in a long to-do list - LIFE.

It's time to change that!

Remember, Feel, realize who YOU are!

Are you a WOMAN / MAN?

(If you suddenly belong to amazing creatures who have not decided on their gender, you can safely close the article - you and I are fundamentally different in our outlook).

An appeal to women.

So, are you a WOMAN? Honestly? Have you forgotten about it? Didn't you turn yourself into a housekeeper, mother, professional, robot …?

If the answer is "Yes" - come back to yourself! Don't hesitate!

It is necessary as soon as possible behind all these roles / masks to discern that uniting component, their "glue" - as "WOMAN'S State".

After all, this state is an indispensable condition for success:

- WIFE - everything is clearer here: if a wife has forgotten about her original core, that she is a woman, then don't go to a fortune-teller, there is a possibility of problems in marriage. The union of love among all species on planet Earth is built by men and women (with the exception of amoebas:)). At the physiological level - for the sake of procreation; on the psycho-emotional - to support, complement and develop each other.

What add-on can we talk about? How can a "skirt-bearer" (using Litvaka's term) complement a man? She just won't have anything. And as a result, he will either leave for other necessary vibrations, or he himself will turn into a "trouser-bearer", only in the likeness of a man.

- MOTHER - here, too, everything is quite obvious - if mom lives under the motto: "one for all!" Simply because an atmosphere of "responsibility for everything and for everyone" will develop, and this requires a strong, charismatic, strong-willed male energy. And again we will have a "skirt-bearer" who looks like a woman, but in fact is not, once simply forbidding himself to be her, in order to endure, to be able to endure everything on her tender shoulders.

- PROFESSIONAL - you will be surprised, but in the profession we really need our gender advantages. And it's not about the notorious: "chest-waist-hips", but about flexibility, the ability to compromise, think differently, etc.

- in the variation Daughter, Girlfriend, Neighbor, COLLEGE and all others, the ability not to seem, but to be a woman will also help us out. It's always easier to play on your own field.

It is important to remember that people, against their will, completely unconsciously, in any of your guises, expect little from us - they yearn to see YOU.

Yes, just you.

And for this it is absolutely necessary to first of all allow yourself to see "yourself". Show up.

How?

You need to find the "RESET" button (reboot) and press it - for example, climb into the bathtub, soak, look at the ceiling so that you don't want more in the near future; scrub gently, but with a fuse, all unnecessary on your skin and soul; wash off … and touch YOURSELF.

Perhaps to meet the reality of your naked "I" you will need a little help, in the form of oil for the skin, applied gently with your gentle hand with the thoughts: "I love you, girl Masha!" (substitute your name here), I love these arms, legs, waist, skin, every cell of my body … Perhaps your "I", like your organs and systems, cells for the first time in all long faithful years of service will hear words of love and gratitude from the hostess.

And then, Coming out of the water clean, gentle, renewed, do not rush to get dressed - look at yourself in the mirror, at YOURSELF. Yes, there, in the looking glass, someone will see a woman different from her dream world, with slightly different outlines, shapes or images, BUT …

SHE IS REAL!!! Not a fantasy.

And this is a WOMAN.

You will not see in the mirror any status, profession, not a single mask - you can, after taking a good look, first see just a Woman, and in her and yourself …

Enjoy yourself. Love. (And don't confuse self-love, self-acceptance with selfishness!)

Obviously, if you yourself do not see a woman in yourself or have ceased to feel and love that way, with 95% probability the people around you, in particular men, will also practically stop noticing her in you.

So, as fashion expert Evelina Khromchenko says:

- "Shoes are medicine! And they don't save on medicines!" or

- "the woman picked up a new bag and flew away" …

So dress yourself up and turn into a beauty!

Allow yourself, if necessary, the "vitamins" of femininity: dress therapy (therapy with clothes), shu therapy (therapy with shoes), (diamond therapy (therapy with jewelry), etc.

Let not only your appearance shine with new colors, but also your body. Indulge yourself a little! You probably deserve it, putting it off for a long, long time: Send yourself to a massage or a sauna, allow yourself a trip to the beautician or spa, dance or go to bed on the sofa for the weekend with a book you have been waiting for.

Often such, at first glance, the most simple, tiny actions are extremely necessary, sometimes vital.

And now, having slightly opened the veil and looked at yourself a little with different eyes, allowing yourself to feel something forgotten, but cornerstone, important and significant in yourself, take a closer look at the world with a different look. A look from the underside of thick black eyelashes with arrows.

Often, very often, a woman's strength lies precisely in her ability to be weak (in moderation and norm). And we need high stilettos not just for beauty, but to lean on a strong shoulder and so that a man knows without words that he is really needed …

Appeal to men.

You're a man? A man with a capital letter?

Please remember that women really need Men who willingly take responsibility, are ready to give a feeling of security to their beloved, develop and reveal themselves, including from the romantic side.

There are enough "trousers" around, honestly. Yes, it is not easy to be close to a fast and nimble girl who strives to do everything herself.

Please show her that you can be counted on.

All ingenious is simple:

- said - done! Even if you have to climb into the oven, calling yourself a pie. And it's not about not promising anything now, otherwise it will remember … But about integrity, about inner dignity, about the phrase from the beautiful past: "I can't do otherwise - I gave a WORD!"

- drag mammoths into the house and defend the beloved privilege of men. That even inveterate feminists understand this pleasantly, but I am beginning to forget, since no one has been attracted by mammoths for a long time. Even the most intractable men will certainly feel a surge of self-sufficiency and self-respect, having managed to protect their chosen one from cold, hunger, hooligans and other misfortunes.

As one lady said:

"I had many admirers, but I married the one who was the first in my life to ask:" Isn't my refrigerator empty and do I have anything to put on and put on in the coming cold autumn?"

- you're a man? So be it! The beer belly has never been in vogue, as have beer itself and similar life substitutes. Do whatever your lady melts looking at your torso, arms, back and everything else.

- Are you for patriarchy? OK! Be an example: be smarter, stronger, more readable, be … By the same person you will want to follow, whom you will want to obey and with whom you will agree, yielding. Your children will really need an EXAMPLE, and your beloved will always be tacitly grateful to you that everything in your family is in place and a man is at the head of the table.

(Of course, we all have our own strong and developing qualities, we complement each other: the neck really needs a head, and the head needs a neck!:))

- be whole: once you have chosen HER - be with her, look at her, speak, take care, pamper in the end.

Let her be your princess, your girl, your queen!

And you be.

And do everything to make her happy, so that her eyes shine when looking at you or just remembering you, or even - just shine with happiness that there is someone in whom you can be confident in our difficult changing world; there is someone who wants to make every one of her dreams come true; there is someone for whom the whole world …

Hooray! We've decided on gender differences!:)

It remains to decide on the desires explicit and secret, that is, true.

2) diagnosis 2: "You have forgotten how to dream"

How often do you dream? Do you even allow yourself to dream, turning for a short while into some kind of Ivanushki-fools?

Dreaming without looking back at the sober and categorical arguments of reason is "impossible", "does not exist", "will not work" and any other "NOT"?

Dreaming even if you are a lady boss with 1000 subordinates or a brutal man who is ready to give Vin Diesel a head start?

There is such a practice: "Dream 15 minutes a day", you can start with five:). It is important to START!

Allow yourself to feel like a child again for a little while.

Small, simple and completely happy.

It seems to me that children are just everything, they dream absolutely all the time. They always want something: now a new toy, then on a trampoline, then fly to the moon or become a princess!

Include your inner "child" for at least five minutes a day! Your inner "adult" also needs regular weekends and vacations at least once a year. Otherwise, as the people say, "the roof can go" if you are on duty all the time, not a day break …

Allow yourself to be right-brain, without the eternal control of omniscient logic. JUST ALLOW YOURSELF TO NOTE!

Let it be something simple and tiny in the beginning, if the dreamy muscle has managed to atrophy quite strongly. But, like any muscle, with regular training, it will tone again.

Dream!

As Einstein said: "Imagination is more important than knowledge! Knowledge is limited, and imagination embraces the whole world.."!

And one more quote from him: "The biggest foolishness is to do the same thing and hope for a different result."

Your new action today will lead to new "windows of opportunity" tomorrow, in a new you.

Dreams will give us a new burst of energy.

There is only one thing left to do: learn to get pleasure from life!

So, - "What did you dream about as a child? Just remember 3/5/10 of childhood dreams."

- "What would you like to be so absolutely unreal / almost fantasy? Where to visit? Who will you meet? What to experience?"

- "Can you help someone to make HIS dream come true?"

(When we help someone, the universe boomerangs back to you the good that you sincerely sent. HELP OTHERS! Albeit in small, simple things.

Start today, as they say, "doing good":) - the main thing is not to get carried away - everything should be in moderation!).

And then, when some irrational dream appeared on the horizon (if it comes true quickly for me, only the most hopelessly irrational ones!), Allow her to live, let her in, opening her even a millimeter of opportunity. Allow yourself to be happy … And the dream - to come to life, because she wants it so much !!!

3) Diagnosis 3: "Acute lack of joy in the blood"

As Concordia Antarova said: "There is only one invincible force in life, and this force is Joy."

Our strength comes from joy! From the extent to which we consciously matured the ability to rejoice in the big and the small (if the naturalness in this issue has been lost, then we urgently learn to "grow" trees from the seeds).

I am sure that most adults, to put it mildly, have forgotten how it is - to truly rejoice, smile "just like that", just because a new day has come, the sun is shining and there is a hot cup of tea.

It is very important to revive this vital skill in yourself, so that the exhaustion leaves your life once and for all and cannot return to it anymore.

- "What gives you joy?"

- "What makes you want to smile?"

- "What things, events, people give you the feeling of a holiday?"

- "To whom and how can you give joy?"

Awaken joy in yourself - this is indeed an invincible force that you need so much to remember happiness and not lose it anymore.

Now let's go back to the first point again and answer the questions:

- "Who you are?"

- "Why / why do you get up in the morning?"

- "Why are you walking on planet Earth?"

- "What is your mission globally or at this stage?"

Clarity gives us integrity. Integrity from the word whole / without holes means the energy will not disappear imperceptibly, flowing out.

Treat yourself to clarity.

You can then return to these questions hundreds of times and change or supplement the answers. Answer somehow, but answer now.

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There is no strength when life passes by, or, more precisely, when what happens at a stretch can be called LIFE.

When one does not dream, does not rejoice and it is not clear why and for the sake of what one lives in this world at all.

If you are simply "lost" and your wise body signals you with a lack of strength, then answering these questions and then consciously changing your position and behavior, step by step, will allow you to surprisingly change your vector of movement or even give you a vector!

If you have been in such a state for a long time and hopelessly, then you can unequivocally designate the diagnosis 4: "chronic fatigue syndrome" and invite you to my courses where you can learn the methods of its independent transformation or work with a specialist whom you are ready to trust, decisively deleting the topic depression from your new life.

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Allow yourself to be children sometimes, to be naughty, have fun, dream, enjoy every second, enthusiastically and gratefully looking at the world.

Allow yourself to dream and rejoice just like that, for no particular reason, or to come up with more and more new reasons for your simple and pure joy.

Be yourself, sincere, real, honest with yourself and the world.

And completely imperceptibly, as a bonus, your life will be filled with strength, energy, movement and bright colors, simply because you will turn into an artist DRAWING YOUR PICTURE, and not sad over the canvas and inactive, fearing something "wrong" to draw.

And by all means, help someone in the realization of his dream, in the ability to notice joy in a simple rainy autumn day, noticing this person as he is, and not remaking him into the way you would like to see him.

And the world will become a little more beautiful!

With love, Irina Potemkina